- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
I have not asked for anything of my bridesmaids past ordering their dress. When it came to planning my bachelorette party my Maid/Matron of Honor suggested a destination party and all these things and I said no, that is way too much cost for everyone. Lets just have a slumber party at my house and go out to dinner and maybe to a bar after. Easy right?
Well I get messages today from two bridesmaids that they cant come to my bachelorette party because they planned trips on that weekend April 20th when we have had this planned since dec/jan. They claim they weren’t told the exact date. Which is odd since my fiance and I picked this date MONTHS ago. So I call up my Maid/Matron of Honor and ask her about this, why dont the girls know the exact date this is a month away?? She says thats not true she told them. Then one girl sends me the email my Maid/Matron of Honor sent out back in January–it is now mid March and there had been NO follow up since which is just insane to me. This whole time i thought she was emailing people keeping them informed of dates, plans etc. The email stated that bachelorette party would be three weeks from the wedding April 27th or May 4th–that is one to two weeks from the wedding–not 3. Regardless why wouldnt she have put the exact day???
Now this is super stressful and creating problems when it should just be a fun no drama weekend. I am planning my wedding myself, plus i plan tradeshows at work and I have has some major health issues and I would have done a better job and keeping up with this. I dont understand. I had to fight the urge to butt in the remind her to do things and just kept telling myself not to be overbearing and anal shes a big girl and would handle it because she knows how big of a deal this is since we have been talking and planning our weddings since high school.
I am considering not even having it now? I dont want to change the date because I want it on the same date as my fiances. But I will miss my two bridesmaids being there. Plus I am so annoyed with these girls, I know this would not be okay for them so why is it ok to just let it slip through the cracks for me? Advice, thoughts, comments?