- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2008
Yesterday my moh went a little crazy on me, and I am not sure what to do. At the time I just listened and didn’t say much back because I was so shocked and because she is pregnant, so I kept thinking maybe it was hormones. My bridal shower is this Saturday…
First, she told me that a few of the guests invited to the bridal shower were wondering if they should buy gifts and/or what they should buy and that her answer was to them was that "since I (the bride) did not register separatly for the shower (I only resgistered at Macy’s), that they do not need to buy me a shower gift, that they should either buy me a shower gift OR a wedding gift."
Then, she told me that since she was working so hard on the bridal shower (she refused monetary help from my 3 other bridesmaids and my mom) she won’t be able to buy me a wedding gift and that I need to pay for her hair and make-up. My mom is doing all of the food for the shower, one of my bm’s is doing the cupcakes, and I have no idea what she has asked the other two bm’s to do. Also, she was the one from the begining that said that all my bm’s should get their hair and make-up done — that it was just part of the responsibility.
Finally, she sent an email over the weekend to all of my bm’s saying that she found a gift she wanted to get me, but that she could not afford it and she wanted them to go in on it with her. My other bm’s responded by saying that they had already bought their gifts for me because sthe shower is this Saturday. The gift in question is $40.00.
What should I do? So far I’ve done nothing. She and her husband make more money than any of my bridesmaids, more than me and my fh, and more than my retired parents. If money is an issue, then why not talk to me about it, after all she is supposed to be my best friend!