- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I’m having issues with my Maid/Matron of Honor (she’s my older and only sister). She and I have never really gotten along. We’re complete opposites and she’s very opinionated (one of those “I must always be right” types). I tend to roll with things and always have to make our relationship as smooth as possible.
A few x-mases ago, my now Fiance and his family came to visit my fam. We stayed up late playing board games and had a lot of fun. On my way home (riding with the FI’s fam), his sister made a comment that made me realize something… my sister is verbally and emotionally abusive towards me and has always been. I’m just so used to it now that I don’t notice it, but I always come away feeling crummy.
Fast foward a few years, Fiance and I get engaged. I’ve never wanted my sis to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, even since we were little, because she’s always been mean. But, her being my only sister, I felt trapped into giving her and only her the title (because she’d blow up if I made her share it, to the point where it could create a lot more drama leading up to and on the day). Two weeks into our engagement, when I had let her know we weren’t annoucing the party for a few more months, she asks me point blank, “So, I’m your maid of honor right?” Nervously, I said yes.
The first so many months were great- I was so surprised! She was supportive and helpful; it was great! Then something in May changed. Ever since then she’s been demeaning, rude, and overly critical, saying this like, “Well I’d do this, but it’s YOUR wedding.”
I know I can’t back out now. I just need a little guidance on how to approach things. I honestly don’t even want to talk wedding with her anymore, but she always brings it up.
So hive, have you ever been in a situation like this and how did you handle it to make the planning and wedding process enjoyable and not hurtful?