- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
When I got engaged, I instantly knew I wanted Princess Sophia as my Maid/Matron of Honor. She’s been a big part of my life over the past 8 years. For the first 5 years we worked in the same office, share a lot of friends (mostly that I met through her), went on international vacations together, skype chatted every morning. For the previous 3, I lived in another state so we didn’t see each other as much, although she was always the number one person I see when I’m back in Boston. I think she struggles with the notion that I’ve ‘moved on.’ Although that’s not how I feel.
Now, she’s never been a bubbly sweet girl. I love her sarcasm, wit and honest cynicism. I’ve never taken her cynical attitude personally, and often enjoy it. But she’s been really down and sour lately. She’s having a tough time because her Dad was recently diagnosed with cancer and in chemo, she was layed off a few months ago and although very active in her job search, feeling quite rejected when she doesn’t get jobs, and her love life hasn’t been fab either. I was hoping that this honor would make her feel perhaps a tiny bit better about herself but whenever I talk to her, I always feel like the Maid/Matron of Honor stuff is a burden. I’m not sure if I’m taking it too personally that she doesn’t seem happy for me, if I should talk to her about it, or if it will put her down more to suggest she’s treating this role like a chore.
I just want my best friend to be happy. I can’t change all the family and job stuff an her love life. My instinct is to include her more in something I’m really happy and excited but doesn’t seem to be working.
Bachelorette Party and Bridal Shower next weekend. I guess I’ll see how that goes.
Any suggestions, thoughts from the hive?