MOH Boyfriend died :(

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Wow… that is absolutely heartbreaking! You seem like such a great friend to her also and I hope you know that and can see that. I am so sorry for your guys’ loss. You two seem lucky to have one another to help you through! 

Post # 4
1105 posts
Bumble bee

@Mrs_Lewis2b:  wow, I’m so sorry to hear that. It’s so nice to think of the locket idea for her. What a sad time

Post # 5
7976 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Honestly and you probably don’t want to hear this but I would change my date.

Im am sorry that you and your MOH have to go through this and it sounds like she is an amazingly strong person but that date would be offlimits for me.

Post # 6
2781 posts
Sugar bee

@Mrs_Lewis2b:  This is so heartbreaking. You have an amazing friend to be so selfless and stick by your side! I think it’s really sweet what you’re doing as the memorial for him.

Post # 7
1165 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Mrs_Lewis2b:  I am so unbelieveable sorry for your loss!!! It is going to be so hard for your MOH, but I know you and your fiancé will be there for her during this difficult time.  I really love the way you plan on honouring him at your wedding. I think it is beautiful, and I’m sure your MOH would appreciate it. Just to be on the safe side, you might want to mention what you plan on doing to commemorate him at the wedding, closer to the date. As much as you want to honour him, it might cause her to be more emtional than she wanted to be. I would maybe suggest double checking with her but you do know your friend best!) In terms of her participation in planning your wedding, I would just take cues from her.

Post # 8
1106 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

That is so sad … oh geez it’s stories like that that make you touch wood and hope nothing like that ever happens to you. It’s so tragic and you can’t make sense out of that kind of loss 🙁


I wouldn’t change the date of your wedding. I’d only change it if he died on that date. 


Case in point, my Nana’s funeral was the other day and it was also my Dad’s birthday. Will he remember it as being her funeral date for the next few decades of his birthday? I don’t really think so, but he will probably always remember the day she died. 

Post # 10
619 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@j_jaye:  I agree. I’d move the wedding by one day. My uncle passed away in 2008, and his funeral was on my aunt’s 50th birthday. When they planned it, she said she’d be honoured, but now she regrets it.

Post # 13
701 posts
Busy bee

@Mrs_Lewis2b:  that is tragic, and just unfathomable. i’ve alos lost several friends, family through the years. your MOH is  incredible. treasure her, always, and your honoring him at your wedding will be perfect! <3

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