- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
An fairly expensive, out of town bachlorette party was planned by my bridesmaids. We decided to keep the group small so as to avoid drama. Boy were we wrong! My Maid/Matron of Honor proceeded to only talk about herself the entire trip (she kept talking over everbody when she wasn’t the center of attention). At one point, she even told me that I “bored” her. She also started screaming at one of the bridesmaids at bars and restaurants. People stared and it was embarrassing. Fortunately, my other bridesmaid did not respond in like. Then we decided to go to a large club. We paid for VIP service in a more private area of the club. We arranged taxi pickup. Sometime during the night, the Maid/Matron of Honor disappeared. The remaining ones of us looked for her throughout the club for over an hour. I was so drunk that i fell many times and hurt my foot very badly while looking for Maid/Matron of Honor (I have a doctor’s appointment soon). We later found that she took her own taxi back to the hotel. Hotel staff said that she stumbled in by herself and puked all over the place (including the room I was sharing with her). We all said we would let it go and continue to have a good time. The next day, MOH tried to talk about it jokingly…she laughed the entire time that she told us repeatedly. The remaining ones of us decided not to encourage her bad behavior (it was dangerous). At the end of the day when she realized we weren’t listening to her story, she then started screaming and crying at a restaurant that she possibly was raped and that we didn’t care. She said she was more important than me, the bride, if she is drunk. We immediately made arrangements to call the police, get her morning after pillls, and HIV preventive medication. She refused and just started screaming at us and ran away. She never did any of that. The next day we flew back home. She didn’t have a ride so my fiance and I drove her home. As she got out of the car, she rolled her eyes and said “thanks for the great vacation.” She also refused to tip the housekeeper who cleaned up her puke and refused to pay for her share of the room.
We spoke with the club operator, the taxicab driver and hotel security staff and compared timeframes and information. The club staff had video of her leaving the club directly to a cab within minutes of us losing her, and the cab dropped her off within an appropriate timeframe. Security then escorted her to her room and left a security guard on the floor until we arrived.
I hate drama and I am considering cutting her as a friend, but my wedding is very close and, I know it is a superficial reason, I don’t want to make last minute wedding party changes. What should I do?