(Closed) MOH creating drama

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sorry to hear about the drama.  Frown

 

I’m wondering if she’s trying to buy time to lose weight before the next fitting… do you think that could be it?  

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ColoradoGirl:  Wow, sounds like more drama than she is worth! Is this unusual behaviour for her or has she been like this before?? 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@ColoradoGirl:  While her brushing you off may not be the best of responses…if she struggled with an eating disorder in the past, it may have genuinely made her feel bad that the dress was too small. Though it wasn’t really anyone’s fault, because she had an eating disorder, she may be telling herself that “It’s my fault the dress doesn’t fit…I’m just not skinny enough”….and maybe she is trying to lose a little weight before the next fitting as PP said…But that is just a guess.

But you are right though, she shouldn’t be lashing out at you about it.

Maybe the two of you could find some time to do something completely non-wedding related to blow off some steam. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I can understand anyone – eating disorder or not – being bummed at a dress being too small; it would be easy to personalize that.

I’m amazed though at how many brides on here have had MOHs tell them to just “find someone else” if a situation can’t be easily resolved immediately. “You need to do a fitting.” “Find someone else!” Seriously? Who just throws away a BFF like that? It stuns me, every time.

OP, it sounds like your MOH has some serious drama/baggage going on. I’m sorry you’re having to go through that. I guess you have to ask yourself how much garbage you’re will to take from someone. Don’t be afraid to take care of yourself.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

You wouldn’t be asking her to step down because she has already offered when she told you to find somebody else. It sounds like this is way more drama than I would ever accept.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@ColoradoGirl:  

That is so sad!!! I would be upset if I got “find someone else” as a first reaction, too! I sure hope that she pulls out the stick she’s got up her butt, and you all can work something out! It’s always sad to see someone throw a relationship away over sometyhing petty!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

If she is 15 years older than you and never been too successful in love (and she probably knows her current relationship is a bit on the sketchy side) she might be dealing with some jealousy regarding your wedding.  You said yourself you’ve seen her act like this towards other people in the past, and it sounds like she is doing the same to you.  I would accept her “out” and realize that she’s not the BFF you think she is.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ColoradoGirl:  “But be nice” – did she expect you to be mean? I’m sorry that she seems to be just throwing away your friendship. It sounds like you’ve been a very considerate bride; you deserve a nicer MOH!! Why does this happen so often?

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