Post # 1
I am not sure what to do. We are only going to have one person each standing with us at our wedding. I would love to ask my best friend, but feel a sense of obligation to ask my sister. I was my sister’s Maid/Matron of Honor and she is really trying to be helpful in my planning, but have always envisioned my best friend standing beside me. How did you make these decisions and were there any repercussions? I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but at the same time I know it is my wedding. Help!
Post # 2
Maybe your sister could do a reading or sign you certificate as the witness? That way she has a special role too.
Post # 3
soontobesumida: In my opinion, the best way to go is to work out how many girls you *must* have standing with you; rather than starting with a predetermined number. In other words, in your situation, there are two girls who are very close so I think you should have them both standing with you.
It’s all very well to say “it’s your wedding, do what you want”, but family relationships are for life. Especially since your sister had you as Maid/Matron of Honor, I think it would be hurtful if you didn’t have her in the bridal party at all.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2015 - The Fairmont, SF
soontobesumida: I don’t have a sister but if I did, I would definitely make her my Maid/Matron of Honor. I think it’s one of those really special things that most sisters get to share and I think that, especially since your sister made you her Maid/Matron of Honor, she’d probably be really hurt if you didn’t ask her.
Have you considered making your best friend a guest of honor? She could sit in the first pew and sit at the head table with you.
Post # 5
Why not have both stand up? They are equally important in different ways it sounds? I feel like if you were to have one stand up the other would be hurt. Maybe your partner can find one extra person to stand as well?
Post # 6
soontobesumida: Why not have both? Even if Fiance has just his Best Man? It’s still a tiny party, and honestly, it seems like a pretty simple compromise to stave off hurt feelings from both women. Otherwise, I say go with your gut. I was also torn between my sister and my best friend. I eventually went with my oldest sister for a few different reasons and I am happy with that decision, but there are many times where I felt that I should have asked my best friend. Luckily, I was able to add both sister and best friend into my bridal party, so problem solved.