(Closed) MOH does not want to contribute to the bachelorette party

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

I don’t know.  These large scale destination parties make my head spin – what happened to a good old drunk night out at the male strippers with a bunch of rowdy girls? 

I get what you’re saying: she should help because she’s in the bridal party.  But I see her side too… she isn’t going.  

I think you’re going to have to pony up on the costs here.  I don’t see any way to “make her” contribute. 

Post # 4
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It doesn’t sounds like she is going to contribute, so I wouldn’t push the issue.  YOu and the other girls attending should do whatever you can afford – if that isn’t a whole weekend away then so be it.  I am sure the bride will be happy with whatever you plan.

Post # 5
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It’s her business whether or not to contribute.  It would be nice if she did but she is obviously not planning on it.  The state of her finances is really not relevant.  Just go on the trip, have a good time and don’t worry about the party pooper.  If the bride asks, just say that Maid/Matron of Honor could not attend and could not contribute to the costs.

Post # 6
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Miss Eagle:  Pretty much exactly what I was going to say. Sounds like a non-issue – go without her and don’t worry about it.

I wouldn’t want to pay for a party I wasn’t going to (probably because I didn’t want to pay for it).  Just hope that she’s saving money to help with a shower, wedding gift, or better yet, something important in her own life.  🙂 

Post # 7
745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t see why you’d expect her to contribute to something she’s not coming to. Her financial situation is none of your concern. If your financial situation was such that this trip was a hardship for you, a different plan should have been made. But to answer your question, yes, you are out of line if you’re expecting her to pay for something she is not attending.

Post # 8
11273 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i don’t think she should have to contribute if she’s not attending. 

you never know other people’s financial situation. 

Post # 9
4150 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have thrown 2 destination bachelorette parties and I just had one thrown for me last weekend.  Only the people going should contribute to the trip.  That’s the way all of the ones I’ve been a part of have gone.

Post # 10
1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Why did you guys agree to a place she chose if she was iffy about going from the start? Why not find a cheaper option if money was an issue?

I think you’re out of luck, OP- I wouldn’t contribute to something I wasn’t attending, either.

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