- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
So..this is a follow up to this post
To summarize, I asked a friend to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. Used to be very close friends, and in fact she is one of my oldest friends that I still talk to and see regularly, because she lives closer than the rest. However in the last few years her attitude has made being her friend, at times, exhausting. But she was super excited to be the Maid/Matron of Honor and the girl throws a great party, so I invited her to play the role.
However, we got into a major, major disagreement a few weeks ago. She basically made some polarizing statements that I did not agree with and that I interpreted as discriminatory in general and, on some level, towards my fiance and his family’s ethnic background.
Anyway, I didn’t talk to her for like a month and when I did, she kind of tried to patch things up. Although she claims she did not mean anything against my Fiance, she sticks to her original discriminatory comments.
This adds a bitter taste to the one that was already in my mouth. On top of that, she had the nerve to ask me if she could invite this guy she hooked up with to be her guest at my wedding (a guy that has a girlfriend, no less). I was kind of shocked she had the nerve to ask.
ANYWAY – apparently, she got the vibe from me that I was having reservations about her because she recently contacted me to ask if I still want her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, and she will understand if I don’t.
I don’t know if I should take this easy out? Or if it will irreparably hurt the friendship and if I am overreacting and just being a bridezilla here.
Does anyone have any suggestions how I can calmy but firmly address this? I don’t WANT to kick her out but I want to make it clear that I do not need negativity or drama on my wedding day, and if she can’t provide me with happy, positive energy then i can’t have her.