(Closed) MOH Drama! So frustrated!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am sorry for the drama, but I also don’t think the facebook announcement was the way to go. In my opinion, you should have given a heads up to your first MOH just to let her know that the title is going to be a shared title. If I was her, I would be upset too. Sorry, but a phone call would have probably avoided all of the drama.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

yikes. i would have asked her in person… not on her facebook! I can understand why that is upsetting.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I COMPLETELY agree with noritake22.. you really should have let your MOH know first too. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

because it seemed sneaky? you may not agree but if i were in her shoes i would feel sad that you didnt at least let me know of your intentions before.. even if it was to co-moh. You could have sent your friend a message to her facebook inbox.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree, I think you should have just given the original MOH the heads up ahead of time that you were going to ask the other girl to be a co-MOH.  I wouldn’t have asked her opinion on it or asked for her permission, I would have just let her know what you were going to do.  I understand using facebook as your main means of communication w/ your best friend.  My best friend and I are like that too.  But I guess it would have been better if you had sent her a private message rather than posting it on her wall. I can kind of sympathize with the original MOH for being upset about first learning about it on facebook.  Yikes, tough situation.  Good luck!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

you should have used fb chat or personal message. 🙂  that being said, i think maid of honor should be someone who can take charge and help with the wedding.  Someone who is good at organizing and planning and attending.  Being best friends forever is great and dandy but not practical for the wedding.  My best friend of many years is a mom with 3 small kids who live 2 hours away from me.  I love her and we speak almost daily but she would be a terrible maid of honor.  Luckily I am blessed by a great friend who took the position and now doing a good job at it. 

Eventually when my friends are getting married, I don’t think anyone of them will ask me to be their maid of honor.  I am not the best person to organize, and plan things and honestly I can’t stand weddings, but that doesn’t mean I’m a bad friend, I’ll be there for them and do my best and I won’t be upset when I am not asked to be the maid of honor 😉

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