(Closed) MOH drama update

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Wow it sounds like she thinks you treat her like a punching bag and honestly doesn’t want to be a part of your wedding or possibly life anymore. I’d take her out of your wedding, you dont want it to ruin your day.

Post # 4
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2703 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

an hour early? i thought she wanted to leave three hours early?

is there any way that you guys can let go of the hurt feelings and start fresh?

i’m sure deep down inside it means a lot for you to have her be there for you on your day…

but i understand if you’ve been let down… either way, good luck and i hope you have a fabulous wedding!!!

Post # 5
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4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh wow, I’m so sorry this drama is continuing.  It sounds like she’s wiping her hands clean of all obligations.  I don’t think you should have her in the wedding.  The tension will probably effect your day and you don’t need that. 

Post # 8
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Newbee

I’m sorry that you are dealing with this FurtureMrsTal.  It sucks when you feel like you’re losing your best friend.

I would say something like, I am sorry you feel that way, I also don’t want to argue anymore about this.  I love you and really wanted you to be there for the most important day of my life.  I just wish that you could see it through my eyes and understand.  You are my MOH and I need your support.  By you leaving the reception early, whether it’s 3 hours or 1 hour (which at this point isn’t important), I feel it actually is a slap in the face and does not show your support of my union and has a huge impact on the wedding.  You would be missing the majority of the reception and us spending time together.  I want nothing more than for you to be happy, but I feel that you can see (your ex) any day.  Why can’t it be after my reception is over?  I would think he would understand the importance of the occasion and realize that you need to be there for your best friend as I would be there for you.

I am under alot of stress right now, with being only 2 weeks from the wedding and I feel that you are springing all of this on me, when I really only need support.

I also feel that you keep changing the story and keep trying to come up with ways to get out of being in the wedding (i.e. wanting to invite ex, leaving 3 hours early, etc.) and so I only said that you didn’t have to be in the wedding anymore, because I wanted to give you an easy way out, because it appears that that is what you want to do.

I love you and want you there, but I don’t want to feel like my wedding is a burden to you and getting in the way of you having a good time with your ex.

Keep us updated and in the end, don’t stress about this.  This is her loss.  Focus on the fact that your day will be beautiful no matter if she is there or not and that you will be marrying your FI. 

Post # 9
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453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’m not sure I understand the problem.

She needs to leave the reception early for some reason. OK. Well that is out of your hands.

What’s the issue that’s making you not want her in the wedding? That is the part I can’t figure out.

 

Post # 10
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745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

kcasam – her MOH wants to leave early to go see her ex bf

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yeah if my MOH left early to see her ex I would be livid, he’s an ex for a reason and it’s my wedding, not just some party.

Post # 12
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453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I see…so are you mad because you hate the ex or because you feel slighted?

I would be mad, too, but this is not somethign you can control (unless you don’t want her in the wedding, of course)

Sorry she’s doing this to you! Hope you guys can come to a compromise.

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