Post # 1
Ok I went to Davids bridal to try on dresses with my mom and moh a couple weeks ago. I told her as long as its the same fabric and color dress my wedding colors, she can get whatever.
My mom and my moh were all over the place suggesting things they knew were not chiffon and the green I was talking about. They kept pressuring me to look at things i was not interested in at all. I kept telling them thats pretty but just not what I’m envisioning.
I was looking around on here and found this little gem from someone else!
Not only do I love the style of the dress but that is the exact color I’ve been looking for! I dont care who makes the dress as long as its chiffon and this color green so I am open to anythign like this!
I sent the link to my Maid/Matron of Honor. She responded with a dress that wasnt in the color and fabric that I would like for the wedding. She then continues to say that its too expensive and that she doesnt want to buy one right now.Which is fine because my wedding isnt until 2013 lol.
Is 225 unreasonable for a dress? I understand bridesmaid dress prices. I’ve been there. For my sister-in-laws wedding I spent over 250 on a dress and alterations and spent tons more on my own hair and jewelry and man many other things (and I was unemployed).
I plan on having their make-up and hair done on me as well as getting them jewelry and gifts.
I feel like she is against my decisions and is trying to make this about her in some ways. How can I approach her and let her know I understand where she is coming from but this is my wedding and I would do the same and more for her?
Post # 3
Honestly, going from David’s Bridal to JCrew is quite a big jump in price! I personally wouldn’t spend over $200 for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress because it’s just not in my budget. Maybe you should just ask your Bridesmaid or Best Man what she’s comfortable spending and then pick the dress out yourself based on the price she gives you.
Post # 4
I don’t think bridesmaid dress prices should be based on what your personal experiences have been as much as what your bridesmaids can afford. The difference between an under $100 dress and a $225 dress to the bride probably isn’t much, but to the bridesmaid it’s everything. It could be the difference between resentment and cheer.
If the J Crew dress is really that important though, maybe you could pay for it/pay for a large portion of it?
Post # 5
Or keep looking for it to go on sale?
Post # 6
If the dress isn’t for two years, I don’t think $200 is that unreasonable. They have plenty of time to put money aside to pay for it.
And a J.Crew dress probably won’t require as much alteration as a David’s Bridal dress, so the price difference really isn’t there.
Post # 7
$225 is pretty expensive. You can likely find a very similar dress for cheaper than that especially given how long you have, but that is not a very common color for BM’s so you might have to look outside of the bridesmaids websites.
THat is a beautiful dress though. I think if you’re expecting them to pay more than $200 before alterations, shoes, accessories, etc. that it’s good if you can pitch in some.
You might even be able to get a seamstress to recreate that dress for you for less thatn $225. There are always options. I wouldn’t automatically assume that she’s trying to be a huge pain in the butt. Maybe sh’es been a Bridesmaid or Best Man in the past to a bride who let her have a lot more say in color and style. Just emphasize to her that that particualar color and that fabric are the most important things to you.
A couple that are sort of similar:
Post # 8
I was really worried about how much the bridesmaid dresses would cost, as I didn’t want my girls to be out a lot of money. They themselves chose the dress (4 girls agreeing on a dress – can you believe it?!?) and the dress cost $280 tax in. I paid for alterations and will be paying for their hair/make-up for the day of the wedding.
My only advice to you is to wait until closer to the date to choose your dresses. 2 years is a long time in the fashion world, and I worry that your tastes will change in two years’ time and you will no longer like that style. Think about how much things have changes in wedding dress style over the past 2 years…same for your Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses.
Whatever you decide – good luck to you! I love the colour and the J.Crew dress is adorbs! As a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I would LOVE to wear that dress!
Post # 9
For me $225 is expensive. I wouldnt want to spend more than 150 for a bridesmaid dress. I’m sure you can find something similar for less.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Given how my weight fluctuates, I certainly would not drop that much money on a dress when there is a very real chance that it won’t fit 2 years from now when I actually have to wear it.
Post # 11
That is way to spendy for BM’s dresses, you have to remember more than likely they will need to get them altered also. I wouldn’t spend more than $100 on BM’s dresses.
Post # 11
One of the benefits of planning way ahead of time is you can wait for sales. JCrew will most likely discontinue that color way before your wedding and put the dres on sale. I fell in love with a JCrew dress for $285 but there was no way I was asking my girls to spend that. 4 months later we got them for $115.
Her complaint about the color and fabric is concerning. You told her chiffon and green right? I’d remind her that you are flexible about sillhouette but that you are not changing your mind about those two things.
Post # 12
$225 is a bit much for me. Even if the thought is “they can wear it again!”, if someone else picks out a dress for you, chances are you won’t. I have had some really cute bridesmaid dresses and never worn a single one after the wedding day – they just weren’t my style.
Our Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were between $80 and $130 (the girls picked their own, we just gave color). We kept it quiet, obviously, but two of the BMs (FIs sisters) are poor college students, so we offered to pay for half of their dresses to help them out. Everyone’s financial situation is different.
I also agree that it is pretty early to be picking out dresses – but then I also think it’s early to have picked out the bridal party already, so what do I know?
Post # 13
@lovekiss – great point. Styles change, weight changes, preferences change.
Just think about two years ago – sweetheart necklines were barely on the map, compared to how popular they are right now.
Also – the over-the-shoulder style has become so popular in the last year, but wasn’t really before that.
I stick by my original advice – wait it out a bit. You only need about 6 months to purchase and order your Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses to have them in time for your wedding. In the meantime, the girls can be saving up for whatever dress you choose at that time.