Post # 1
So, my MOH (who I talk to on a very regular basis atleast 3 times a week) hasn’t been talking to me for the past two weeks. I’ve been trying to get ahold of her to find out her travel plans, etc. for my wedding which is now 8 days away. I talked to her briefly on wednesday and she told me that due to her current finances she might not be able to make it to my wedding, but would let me know by the end of the week. It’s friday, talked to her via text and she said she’d call me later…that was hours ago.
I just wish she would tell me one way or the other. I need to ask another one of my BMs if she will be my MOH, but can’t do anything until I here from my current MOH.
This is crazy! AHHHHH! Thanks for letting me vent.
Post # 3
I’m sorry! Hope you hear from her soon!
Post # 4
Wow! I’m so sorry to hear that; so after your MOH has purchased her dress, etc she is decided to drop out? It seems very odd and I would think that she’s been planning financially for quite some time for your wedding; maybe something very serious has come up and she’s not ready to share.
In any case she does need to let you know ASAP! Sorry again, this is the last thing you need 1 week before the big day
Post # 5
I’d nicely tell her that you understand her difficulties and at this point, with it being this close to the wedding you are going to ask one of your other girls. If she’s still able to make it, you’d love her to be a bridesmaid…
Find out the details of her real issue later, right now you need to hand the details of your wedding first.
Post # 6
Oh no, hope she can make it! How awful, something must have happened that sucked away all her funds. Just wait it out, you can’t control people (not to say you’re controlling, just saying). You can ask someone else to be a MOH the day of, no worries.
Post # 7
I am sorry to hear this, I hope everything works out for the best. My thoughts are with you!
Post # 8
oh, no! I know how you feel. Two of my BM dropped out about 2-3 days before my wedding. I thought about trying to find someone to replace but I knew she couldn’t get her dress in time and I know she could fit into any of the BMs that dropped out.
I kept them in my program but instead 2 of my bm walked down with 2 gm. They were very happy to do that! Pictures didn’t turn out that bad either.
You can read my post on it. http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/two-days-after-wedding-but-still-annoyed-with-my-two-bm-who-couldnt-come
Post # 9
Yeesh- did she not know this sooner? I’ll keep my fingers crossed!
Post # 10
Vanilla this happened to me too but my MOH would have been flying in from Germany while pregnant and with a 2 year old so I at least knew why she couldn’t make it. She let me know in plenty of time and I was able to get a back-up in.
I like 2010bridetobee’s advice.
Don’t stress, it will all work out in the end.
Post # 11
I’m pretty sure original MOH has known for about a month that she wouldn’t be able to make it to the wedding. I understand her money situation (she just moved and is about to start grad school). I’m not mad, I just wish she had told me sooner.
Luckily, I called another one of my BMs and she is so exicted to be my MOH. I told her that I didn’t want her to feel like sloppy seconds, and she said she could care less. She loves me and FI so much she doesn’t mind.
Everything works out the way it does for a reason.
Post # 12
My sister did the same thing to me! After planning and talking to me almost everyday about the wedding! Its crazy! I would never do that to anyone, you are given heads up way in advance to know if you can afford it or not, or if you really want to be a MOH or not. This isnt like a game, its a serious day in our lives, people just dont take it seriously