Post # 1
Hello fellow Bees,
I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor for my sisters Destination Wedding. Just a little info to lead up to my question. The dresses for the wedding cost $300, destination wedding is about $3,000 for both me and my husband together. Plus shoes, accessories, etc. For my wedding, I had 10 Bridesmaids so they all pitched in and got my husband and I a Washer and Dryer. My Maid/Matron of Honor which was my sister gifted us our Honey Moon which was alone about $2500. What do I do with her for her Bridal Shower gift? Theres no way I can give her what she has gotten me. Btw: Theres only 4 Bridesmaids in her wedding. All 21 and under. Not only am I the oldest but the only one with a real job (which I don’t make much at). Any advice?????????????
Post # 3
@MOH22: Your sister should understand the financial strain you are under. Have you asked the other BM’s how much money they could contribue to a group gift?
Do you think your sister will be upset you did not get her such a large wedding gift? $3K to attend a wedding is steep!!
See how much each girl can give and maybe give her a giftcard to a spa, or give her a Visa giftcard for her to use after the wedding?
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Your sister knows exactly how much this wedding is costing her, and she knows what she’s asking of you– I would recommend you and the other BMs all go in on a gift together from their registry, or if they don’t have one, something they can do together on their honeymoon.
Whatever you can afford is perfectly fine– same for the other girls– Another option if they’re not interested in a group gift is something homemade. Or a clean house coupon for when they return from their trip, another idea would be to make a week’s worth of frozen dinners for her and her new husband so when things are hectic right before the wedding, it’s one less worry.
Post # 5
My sister is very understanding but I also feel like its my duty as an MOH/Sister and I also feel obligated. You know what I mean. I’m sure the most the other BMs can contribute is 200$ each, which would make a total of $800 worth for a gift? thats a bit pathetic. I dont know what to do. I’m the only one able to contribute, my husbands on disability right now. I’m really stuck in a pickle! Makes me so sad because the huge gifts I got for my shower, granted I had 10 girls. but still. ugh!
Post # 6
Were definitly putting our money together but like i said.. its going to be a small gift because money is EXTREMELY tight right now. My sister is very giving and always there when someone is in need. I just feel like she deserves more than just a giftcard to the spa.