- 3 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I’ve often read this site but never posted. I’ve had a pretty low-key year-plus engagement and planning process until this past weekend. I need advice on this, and since I’m the first of my friends to get married (I’m 25), I’m not sure who to ask. I’m getting married in 6 months (May 18th).
So my MOH was my best friend from college. We were inseparable for years, even though we live 1,000 miles away now. Since graduating from college, I’ve saved money to fly and visit her as much as possible. I went to visit her this past weekend, and she wanted to do an all-day bar crawl. We first went to a party which was entirely her co-workers. I didn’t know anyone but it was fine. I started talking and drinking, and a few guys were flirting with me. My fiance and I have been together 6 years, and flirting is a non-issue. I think it’s perfectly healthy. The party went to the first bar and I continued talking to a guy who I had some common interests with. My MOH had been ignoring me (not purposefully, I think she was just really drunk/engrossed in work friends), so I didn’t have anyone else to talk to, and I am not outgoing. Anyway, she came up to me at the bar, dragged me away, and started screaming at me. She told me I was being a slut, and had embarassed her in front of her friends. She kept screaming for me to get out, and told me to go back to her apartment. After crying for 30 minutes lost (and pretty intoxicated) in an unknown city, I found my way to her place. She returned with a female coworker and started screaming at me about the incident, but many things from years ago. I just sat there and listened, because I thought it was just drunken ranting. Then, she said she never wanted to speak to me again, and would not be my MOH/would not attend the wedding, because I was a “whore who was going to get divorced in 5 years tops.” She then said I couldn’t stay at her place, and literally threw my posessions out. I had nowhere to stay, and begged to at least sleep until the next morning (my flight was at 1pm), but she refused and told me to sleep on the floor of the airport. I eventually got in contact with my fiances friend, and stayed at his place on the couch until my flight the next day.
It’s been a week, and no word from her. She left all facebook groups/messages for the wedding, didn’t order her dress, removed me from gchat, etc. WHAT happened? Was I in the wrong? I don’t think I can be friends with her after this, but I am left wondering what happened to make her snap like that and if I was wrong. Was it years of issues? Just alcohol? She was a sister to me and I am really shocked…
Thanks, sorry this is so long. Just need some advice, I’ve been pretty torn up about this. -Sara