MOH eyeliner application woes..

posted 3 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

@MichiganGirl24:  If you want her to wear her make up a particular way, then you should offer to pay for professional application.  Beyond that, i don’t think there is any way you can ask someone to change something that I see as a rather personal choice. Obviously she wears her make up that way because to her it looks good and therefore makes her feel good.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@SeaSalt:  +1

I don’t know if you both love makeup or anything, but perhaps you can do each other’s makeup just for fun and see if she likes what you do. Then you could say, “That would be a great look for the wedding day.” it would be a subtle way to get her to maybe wear her makeup differently, but if this isn’t your style, I would just offer a pro to do her makeup (at your expense). Like PP said there is no good way to tell her to lighten her makeup.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@SeaSalt:  +1, exactly. If a bride demands that make-up be worn in a certain way, then she needs to pay for it. I wouldn’t be friends or stand up for someone who was more concerned about how I look than who I am.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

My friend’s BM wears red lipstick. We both HATE red lipstick. We think red lipstick looks horrendous on about 99% of women. Before our friend got to the room to get ready, we told the makeup artist NOT to do red. Instead, she did a lovely shade of pink. It looked GREAT on her and still gave her the look she was going for. 

Point is, if you hate the way she does her eye makeup for the pictures, get a pro and offer for her to get her makeup done. If she says no, tell her it’s on you. Beforehand, tell the makeup artist that you don’t want her wearing liquid liner and show her the way she does the liner that you don’t like and what you would prefer her look to be. If you’re paying, you get to dictate that. 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MichiganGirl24:  Why don’t you two play makeup one day? Tell her you really want to try some things out before the wedding. And ask if you can do her makeup to see what styles you might like. If she doesn’t bite, just tell her that you want everyone wearing a more natural/smokey look for the big day and if she can do that instead of the liner she normally wears. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

@MichiganGirl24:  Then for a fun bonding experience, go have a spa day and get your make up done together, ro visit a make up counter for a make over.

To demand she not wear make up in a way she clearly prefers to is wrong. You can try to lead her to it if you like (through my suggestions above, or other ideas), but to do it yourself is likely treading a very fine line between being helpful and hurtful.

Or you may wish to reconsider passing on a MUA. Personally, having our make up done the morning of the wedding was really fun for all of us, and we all looked a million times better than we could have done ourselves.  I paid $5K for pictures, and I feel pretty confident once we get our proofs, I won’t be disappointed in how I look. Just something to consider. It’s a relatively minor expense ($50/p) for a lot of fun and peace of mind.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@MichiganGirl24:  Okay, then demanding was the wrong word. “Suggesting” that she isn’t doing her make-up to your standards might be a better fit. I am just saying that I cannot see this being received well at all. It is not up to you to decide that she needs to try a new look or broaden her horizons. I would find this terribly offensive. However, if the bride said, hey we are getting pro make-up done, I’m willing to pay/pay half, are you interested? Sure, I’d do it.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

@MichiganGirl24:  Keep in mind that even if you pay for it, she can change her makeup after the fact.  Nothing would stop her from adding more eyeliner after the makeup artist finishes if she doesn’t like the work that they do. I am very good with makeup, and I often tweak my own makeup after a professional finishes their work.  Before my sister’s wedding, after the makeup artist finished with me, our mother said: “They didn’t do your eyes right.  You should go fix them.” I did just that.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

I guess the other point I would make is, believe it or not, no one is going to care what her eyeliner looks like on your wedding day. I bet YOU won’t even care what her make up looks like on your wedding day.  People get so wrapped up in these little details, and in my limited experience (my own wedding 11 days ago lol), there are so many things I didn’t notice, didn’t care about, or just don’t remember that it’s almost funny.

If you won’t pay for make up, this really isn’t worth risking hurting the feelings of the person you will depend on the most on your big day.

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