MOH Frustration

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

$115 dollars is VERY reasonable for a dress bridesmaid dress. It sucks that she lied to you and you deserve better. At thispoint it doesn’t sound like she’s done much to show she wants to be part of your day…and she’s not just a bridesmaid, she’s your MOH! It’s hard but I’d sit her down and have a talk and ask if she wants to be part of the day and maybe you have to make the decision that she shouldn’t be. Sorry you’re in this situation.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by  Songstress_7.
Post # 3
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943 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It sounds like she is being selfish and doesn’t really care to be in the wedding. I can’t believe she would ask your mom to buy her dress! WTH?? I wouldn’t count on her to show up. You don’t even need to worry about kicking her our, because it seems like she might step down on her own.

Post # 4
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42453 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

PF2PD:  You sound like you have been totally reasonable. Some people are just too embarasseed to talk about money. Clearly she doesn’t handle her money well, but don’t make the false assumption that not buying the dress has anything to do with you.

Ask her if she still wants to be your MOH. If she doesn’t you can accept her resignation. If she does, it sounds like you have already come up with a solution to the dress problem.

Post # 6
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45 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I saw the title and read with a slight feeling that I was going to disagree with you. I was a MOH recently and I spent way too much money and time. I felt it was a little unfair and my elopement and both receptions will cost less than what I spent on hers… so while I love my friend and would do most of it again, I probably have some bitter feelings. lol

Anyway, I was wrong. That’s awful. It’s really unfortunate when friends don’t come through for you if you’re the type of person that would do it for them. Especially considering you asked if she needed help paying and most people don’t do that. That’s really irresponsible and inconsiderate and it sounds like she’s being defensive. I agree with @AnonymousCupcake, I wouldn’t really plan on her attending. I mean, I probably wouldn’t, at this point, want her to attend. That’s just me, though. 

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