Post # 1
I’m my sister’s Maid/Matron of Honor, also my cousin from across the country is one of the MOH’s. There are 6 other bridesmaids, all cousins except for one. I will send messages out to all of them and I rarely get a response from them. I have gone to every single bridal appointment with my sister, and was happy to go and help out any way I could.
The shower and bachelorette party are coming up in 2 months and I will send messages to the other Maid/Matron of Honor and ask her for her opinion. She is working at a department store and really doesn’t have that much going on in her life right now. Me on the other hand works full time and goes to school full time. When I send her a message about anything shower related she just blows me off. She will send back one message even though I am asking for more advice.
I will also send out messages to all the bridesmaids and let them know what is going. Tell them about the dresses, shoes, the shower, and the shower present. One bridesmaid will respond to every single message I send. The others totally ignore my messages. I understand that everyone is busy but they could at least respond.
Am I asking too much from the other bridesmaids? This is the first wedding I have been in and I don’t know what is expected of everyone. Any advice you can give me would be appreciated.
Post # 3
You certainly have a tricky situation to deal with. You aren’t asking too much of the Bridesmaids at all. All you can do is carry on doing the great job that you’re doing. At least when the wedding is over, you’ll be happy in the knowledge that you did everything you could to make the Bride enjoy her special day. If the other Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaids don’t want much involvement, then they shouldn’t have agreed to become bridesmaids in the first place. Being a good bridesmaid is about more than just putting on a pretty dress and smiling for the camera on the wedding day. Ultimately, they are the one’s who are missing out on sharing this experience with the Bride.
Keep doing a fab job x
Post # 4
It sounds like you’re doing everything you can. The situation sucks, but you can’t force people to participate. Try to work more with the bridesmaid who sounds like she does want to be involved rather than relying on the other MoH.
Post # 5
When you say send messages I’m assuming text, email, or facebook? Unfortunately you can only do so much, and if they’re not going to participate and try to get involved then there’s nothing else you can do. It seems like you’re doing the best you can with what you’ve been given.
The only suggestion I really have is to call them and speak to them over the phone (if you haven’t already). At least it’ll give you the peace of mind to know that they heard you and understand.