First off: deep breath, sweetie 🙂 I’ll answer all of your questions!
So what in the world do I do? I have only been to one bridal shower (BS) and bach party (BC) which were on the same day. It was actually kind of nice that I didn’t have to worry about travelling twice. On the other hand, they did take up a lot of my Saturday.
Are they supposed to be a surprise? You can make them a surprise with the details, but I think the best idea is to include your bride in on at least the dates/times so she can schedule her life around them.
How much am I supposed to get the bride involved? Aside from taking into account her schedule and tastes (disliking penis-shaped objects), I’d say you don’t have to keep her involved. If she’s really picky, you may want to ask, but it is not necessary.
Who do I invite to each one? Unless you are related to the bride, this is something you’ll have to ask her. Typically, for the BS, you invite most, if not all, of the women who are invited to the wedding. For the Bridal Party, it’s the bridal party + those females who are nearest and dearest (usually young) to the bride.
Do they happen on the same day? As I said above, they can be. I’d say do whatever you feel comfortable with. My concern if you have them while you’re still in college, is having them on different weekends will definitely be more of a cost for you, so I’d say, have it on the same day.
The wedding in late October and the bride turns 21 early July so they would both (?) have to be between July and October of this year… the bachelorette party at least.How do I organize it? Typically the BS is about 3 months before the wedding. So, the end of July would be a great time to have them. This would help offset the costs as well. You could have the BS at a park (summer, hello :D), or a Bridal Party swimming party.
People get stuff for the Bridal shower off a registry, right? Is that the same as the wedding registry? Yes, they are the same. Make sure your bride has one set up and you know where she is registered.
What should I do for the bachelorette party? Drinking copious amounts of alcohol is a given! lolBut I know the bride isn’t into male strippers or various things shaped like a penis. And we’re all poor college students so no trips to Vegas! What did you do for yours? I haven’t had mine yet. Since you are all rolling in the money (j.k.) you could have a pool party during the day then at night go to a house, have pizza, wine/beer/shots, and play Dirty Minds, or dirty Apples to Apples. You don’t have to have penis-shaped stuff. Or if you’re not into games, you could do at-home make-overs. Or, if you do want to go out a little, why not go out to a swanky martini bar, or a cool restaurant for dinner, then head back to a house. Or, you could have a middle-school-esque sleep-over. Ya know, with “Clueless” and Truth or Dare. Or just have a movie night-those are always fun! Just don’t forget to have everyone bring their favorite bottle of wine/booze/beer.
What did you like/ dislike? What do you wish had been done or not done? (Sorry, these are the only 2 I cannot answer).
I hope this helps, please let me know if I can help any more.