(Closed) Bride is giving me the silent treatment – VERY ANGRY WITH ME!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

From the information you gave, I think she is in the wrong. It’s just a fitting… it can be rescheduled. You might not want to say this to her, though, because it will probably just inflame things.

Since it’s only Tuesday, I would give her another day or two. Maybe she’ll calm down by then. If she doesn’t call by Thursday, you should probably call her again. Tell her you don’t want there to be tension at her girl’s night out, and you want to clear the air now.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

That’s just crappy. I’m sorry, but MOHs are people too. Your FI’s father’s birthday was more important than a fitting :(. I’m sorry, I’m no help whatsoever, but you didn’t do anything wrong!

Post # 5
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5756 posts
Bee Keeper

Come on now. She’s upset you couldn’t make a fitting? How immature of her. Besides…since when is THAT a MOH duty? That’s a new one. She’s been through this 3 other times and she’s giving you grief? You’re a much nicer person than I would be about it!

Post # 6
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@ItWasntMe: That’s what I was thinking, but I didn’t know how to say it semi-nicely :). 

Post # 8
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528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Totally agree with you and the previous posters- totally blown out of proportion! Yes it would have been nice if you could make it there, but you couldn’t. Your future father-in-law’s birthday trumps holding her hand at a fitting. I’m sure I’d be disappointed if I were her, but that’s life! I hope she realises how silly she is being before this affects your relationship. After all, how can she be your maid of honour if she doesn’t speak to you! There’s not much you can do now but take the high road and wait it out!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You did all you could. I strongly recommend you don’t indulge her bratiness by asking about her feelings on it. If she brings it up, let her know you are sorry you missed the fitting, but your FFIL’s birthday was a family obligation you could not miss. Then change the subject to the very exciting evening planned for her. She will get over it.

Post # 11
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3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

A fitting isn’t that big of a deal. She should have rescheduled it. Nothing really happens at my fittings, but I usually go by myself. I figure I’m the best judge of me.

Post # 12
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3801 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Well, I’d say she is in the wrong.

I know weddings are stressful, but people in your wedding have lives out side of your wedding. Your friend could have rescheduled the appt, or she could have made sure that she had all she needed (shoes, etc) and went herself. Poor planning on her part does not equal an emergency on your part.

If she continues to give you the silent treatment, you might want to call her and leave a message saying ‘We need to clear this up before your wedding, and discuss the fact that you are MY maid of honor, as well’, or something to that effect, because you dont’ need her standing you up for your day as a way to passive-aggressively getting back at you.

Post # 13
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1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think she is on an emotional rollercoaster and she is using you as a punching bag. Its not fair at all and she needs to let it go

 

Post # 14
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161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@honeyoats22: I agree with you- let it be until Thursday night and THEN call.  I would try not to rock the boat if possible (even though I TOTALLY agree that she is in the wrong and blowing it out of proportion) bc that will just make the girls night tense.  Once the wedding is over and she (hopefully) goes back to normal maybe you can tell her how it made you feel.

Good luck!:)

Post # 15
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199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

WOW it sounds like you went above and beyond your duties here! Don’t let her guilt trip you too badly, you made the right choice and did everything you could to help her out. She’s just being a drama queen and I’m sure she’ll get over it.

Post # 16
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5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

While she shouldn’t be this upset, I can undertstand why she is upset. And I know you couldn’t do anything about it but since you told her that you would come she was probably dissapointed about going to her fitting alone. As a bride you know first hand how emotional and stressful these times can be and sometimes when we are caught up in all the stress our emotions take over. She doesn’t seem to be acting angry just more hurt and overwhelmed. I would probably call her or send her an email just to clear the air and let her know that you are sorry and understand that she’s upset but you are looking forward to Sat night. You may act in a way within a month of your wedding that you will need her to overlook.

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