Post # 1
I love pregnant women and pregnant woman dressed up. So this is not one of those, she is stealing my thunder. Maid/Matron of Honor also happens to be my sister! So here is my one teeny tiny issue, I love pregnant women and my sister, and I am very protective of her and especially when she is carrying that precious niece or nephew of mine. So, I know she wants to plan the bachlorette party, and our previous converstations had it to be a wild night, think Hangover, no, maybe not. Ok, but naughty times were to be had. Right. I can’t imagine letting her plan a bachlorette party with a toddler and being pregnant, let alone, partying it up. I do not in any instance want her in a club setting or even in a drinking enviroment. Although I would like one night before my wedding to be all my girlfriends in a drinking and dancing enviroment.
I don’t know what to do. If I told her, I know she will be very sad, I am so torn I dont know what to do. Any suggestions? Am I sounding a little bridezilla? It just feels good to put this out there, and stop thinking about it. Thanks!
Post # 3
Your sister is a big girl and she can decide what is appropriate for her pregnant self…no need for you to hover that much. Let her plan what she wants
Post # 4
You can still have the bachelorette you want. If you go to a non-smoking club, and thank God there are more and more of those, she can drink soda and have a great time.
Your sister can make her own decisions as to what is right for her.
Post # 5
Everything Julies1949 said. And hey, designated driver! 😀
Post # 7
Yeah I know she can make her own decisons about what to do. I just have a real big guilt factor. I just feel like she shouldnt have to take on the task, she should be relaxing and she is easily stressed and so am I. I am the one that talks her down from her stress. We went to a mild bachlorette party before, and honestly I was ready to go when we got there(she was pregnant at the time), and so was she. We are very close, and I could tell by just looking at her she was not comfortable there, and neither was I. I just feel sooooo guilty thats all.
Post # 8
you are just too sweet for taking your sister/MOH into consideration! Maybe you can suggest going out for dinner and drinks (mock-tails for her) and then afterwards go out dancing/ clubbing with the rest of the girls later on?
I don’t know how far along she’ll be, but I’m just guessing that maybe going to the club might be too much for her (though it would great if she can!) due to how crowded, hot and loud it is.
Hopefully everything works and congrats to the both of you!
Post # 9
have the bachelorette party you want. if she doesn’t want to go, or only stays for a minute, catch up with her the next day over mani/pedis.
Post # 10
My sis/moh is pregnant, as well. I would just talk to her about your fears. Maybe the other girls can plan it, but only if you Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t want to deal with it. I wouldn’t assume that she doesn’t want to be involved, until you talk with her. Maybe you can start the night off with a fun dinner, and then move things over to a bar/club, so if your sister wants to leave, she can, but at least she’s had the chance to have some fun and be a part of your bachelorette.
Post # 11
Koala and simplified have it right. I like that idea better. She will be pretty pregnant by then, and I would not want her in a bar, number 1 drunkies are annoying, throw in a beautiful pregnant girl, ewww…I just don’t want to think about it.