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So long story short, I'm recently engaged. Due to financial and situational reasons, we are having a long engagement (3 yrs) so we can save our money to plan the wedding we want to have. But my problem is my best friend! We've been close for a long time, she has been with me through some of my most troubling times. I love her like a sister.

I don't plan on picking my wedding party until I at least set a date and I get closer to the actual planning process (like 2 yrs from now). But she has already told me that she doesn't want to be in the bridal party!! She was my only choice for a MOH. I'm not close to many women outside of my family and being my best friend I just always thought she would be my MOH. Her reasons are that she has been in so many weddings recently and is getting very jealous/depressed that everyone around her seems to be getting married, etc. "Weddings just aren't my thing". I can understand her feeling and the whole "always a bridesmaid, never a bride" thing. But I also think that her feelings will change in the next 2 years. I leveled with her and told her that I'm not asking now but when it comes time I will ask her, and if she says no I will be hurt, but I would understand.

We left it at that for now.. Our relationship hasn't changed at all.. but I'm still really hurt by the blanket statement. Its been a tough few months for her and she's been very depressed. I know that she will work her way out of it, and I will continue being the friend I am and help her as much as I can.. but I still can't shake what she said. Should I be trying to cultivate a close relationship with another person in the event things don't change?

Help!

@menobride: Thanks your thoughts! I actually have been relishing my time with her because I can talk to her about non-wedding related things. Since I'm having such a long engagement, I haven't started planning anything and don't really want to until I things are more aligned. Whereas my mom and FMIL are about all things wedding. So its nice to have some normalcy with her.

Unfortunately I've recently moved away.. so our friendship is long distance now. But I've been planning a "girls weekend" sometime in Jan/Feb. Where it can be just me and her and some of our friends.

Her friendship means a lot to me, and I certainly don't want her in a position that she isn't comfortable with. I rather her having a good time at my wedding than miserable as a MOH. I wasn't surprised by her reaction or feelings, I think I was more taken back by the blanket statement..