Post # 1
Does anyone have a maid of honor who is a little bit of a control freak? I love her to death and she has been so helpful, but it seems like anytime I have an idea if its not something she would personally do at her wedding or she didnt think of it she cringers or says she doesnt like it.
For example she went and got fitted for her Bridesmaid or Best Man dress and then she texted me and said “definitely need to remove the flower” But, what if I want the flower or like it? I feel like her taste is overpowering what I want in my wedding.
Im just not sure what to do. She also is butting heads with one of my best friend who is also a Bridesmaid or Best Man. My Maid/Matron of Honor could not plan the Bachelorrte party with her. It was either my Maid/Matron of Honor plan it by herself or my all my bridesmaids plan it together.
I was just wondering if anyone had advice.
Post # 3
Maybe it’s time to sit down with her and have the talk. Tell her how you really appreciate her organizational skills and how on top of everything she is, but you have the final say as it is your wedding, after all. Gush about how lucky you are to have such a great leader for your bridal party, but all decisions need to be run by you first. Good luck!
Post # 4
Well, at least she is enthused and is trying her best to be a good maid-of-honor. She probably just doesn’t realize that she is being overbearing. I wouldn’t necessarily sit her down and give her a talk because that might come off as lecturing and I would be kind of offended is someone sat me down just to tell me what I’m doing wrong! Instead, I would try to be firm next time she wants to make a decision for you. Say, “Thank you for the suggestion but I feel that..”
Post # 5
@maggiemay0811: I have a similar problem with one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man. She thinks everyone should match from hair to makeup to shoes, etc. She disagree’s with my want of a cathedral length veil and the shoes I’ve picked out because they don’t “bling” enough. I love her ideas and opinions but sometimes I just have to put my foot down and say: friend I love you but this is where we must agree to disagree. Even though she doesn’t like it sometimes it’s better to stand my ground. I think you just need to stand your ground (in a nice way) and let her know it’s just not something you want. After all she is your friend I’m sure she’ll understand you won’t always agree on everything. Good luck!!
Post # 6
wow you seem to have a similar situation to me, although I haven’t asked mine to be Maid/Matron of Honor yet because I know how she will get, how she already has before I have even asked her to be Maid/Matron of Honor, which I am not sure about doing. I know that you’re not supposed to drop someone as Maid/Matron of Honor, but if she doesn’t understand that it is your wedding, not hers, she doesn’t deserve to be in it. It is your wedding, tell her so.
Post # 7
@littlelucygoose: a good maid of honor doesn’t tell the bride what to do, what to have and disagrees with what the bride wants, and won’t listen to anyone else’s opinion.
sorry for the mini vent, just not looking forward to wedding planning with my best friend as Maid/Matron of Honor, if I have her
Post # 8
@Jacqui90: I said “trying” and the original poster also said that the Maid/Matron of Honor has been helpful.