MOH? little rant

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@inspiration86:  I think that she is trying to be respectful. Since she is trying to concieve, she may be waiting to respond to your question until she knows if she can be 100% there for you as a MOH.

Post # 4
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839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@inspiration86:  I think she’s also trying to be fair to her husband since he is also involved in her plans to have a baby soon. I don’t think I would have given an answer right away if I had something like that going on in my life too. I know it’s not the answer you wanted from her, but try not to take it too personally. It sounds like she wants to be there for you but isn’t sure that she can yet. 

Post # 6
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325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@inspiration86:  I have read many stories on the bee about bridesmaids/MOH who had to drop out due to being pregnant, and the bride has almost always been upset that the friend agreed to it and then had to drop out close to the wedding when the bride is already stressing out about other things wedding related.

 

Post # 7
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3756 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@inspiration86:  No, it is not. If you are actively trying to get pregnant, it’s stressful and then being pregnant is hard work. Accepting an MOH position knowing that you’re trying to conceive is taking on a lot. She’s being responsible by saying let me think about it. 

Post # 8
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2357 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

She may have also needed to talk to her husband because of the financial responsibilities of a MOH as well since they probably share finances and need to save for the baby. Rather than be insulted, be glad she’s taking the (potential) responsibility seriously. 

Post # 9
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539 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

First off, why would she have to drop out if she got pregnant?  If her due date is near the wedding, I could see her not being able to be in the wedding, but just because she’s pregnant doesn’t mean she can’t be a bridesmaid. And second, I could see her saying she needed to talk to her husband because of the expense involved. And if they’re trying to conceive,  they may be on an even tighter budget. If I were to be asked to be a bridesmaid right now (even without a wedding of my own to plan), I would have to consider it carefully. I’d much rather say no from the start rather than say yes and back out later.

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