Post # 1
Ok, well I am very upset to say the least. My Maid/Matron of Honor and I went to lunch today and I was discussing wedding details with her when she told me she had something to tell me… She is going to work in Korea for a year and she is supposed to leave in April, my wedding is in June. Apparently she is just not happy with her current job and was looking for something else. I am truly happy for her and this opportunity, but I am sad. I have already had to replace a Bridesmaid or Best Man, but this is so devastating. I mean if I had to pick one person to stand by me on my day it was her.
Anyone else have any circumstances like this, if so how did you deal?
Post # 3
I actually had two maids of honor – two of my sisters. One has since run off with her boyfriend and eloped. She isn’t talking to us. He is in the military and is apparantly getting deployed, so they likely won’t be attending the wedding. I’m not sure how to deal, I’m just trying to take it a day at a time. And I guess I’m lucky I had another maid of honor to fall back on!
Post # 4
You are not alone- I’ve heard stories upon stories of things like this happening. Most likely, it will probably happen to me since my 2 MOH’s are super important people now. Im thinking cardboard cut-outs of them and Michelle Obama standing with me at the alter will make me happy.
Post # 5
So sad to hear your situation. It sounds like you have a good attitude about it and like you are a great friend. Unfortunatly these things do happen; it is difficult to get the world to work around one date and location! I wish you the best of luck in finding another friend to be there by your side on your special day!
Post # 6
I had a bridesmaid leave to work in Iraq, but I pretty much knew she wasn’t going to stick around for the wedding.
I’m sorry to hear about your situation; try to take comfort in the fact that even though she would be happy to be at your wedding, she’d be miserable at work, now she can think of you on her wedding day and be completely happy.
Post # 7
I’m sorry. It’s unfortunate. I couldn’t have two of my friend in my wedding. try to make the best of it. Maybe there is someone else who could fill in, who would be delighted. Or maybe think of the blessings of a smaller Bridal Party. (Less bickering, fewer expenses…) Good Luck.
Post # 8
Thanks for the comfort and suggestions ladies. I actually have a good friend of both of our (me and my MOH) who I am going to ask to fill in. I am too OCD not to have the same amount of BM’s and GM’s. 🙂 Besides I would have liked to have this friend in the wedding party, just not enough spaces. And I know my Maid/Matron of Honor will be there in heart anyway. And she will still be in my programs since they are all already printed (for the 2nd time since the Bridesmaid or Best Man dropped out). I will just miss her. 🙁