MOH not cutting it

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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2364 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

CG4268:  No.  You’re not overreacting, but if she’s done nothing and may NOT be able to attend your wedding last minute, why is she your MOH??  That don’t make no sense!!   

Post # 6
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655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB

I think that she probably should not have accepted the postion of your MOH since her schedule really doesn’t allow for much.

My sister is in the navy, and she won’t be able to come to any pre wedding events, no rehersal, bachelorette stuff, i am just glad she will be at the wedding and even that is not concrete. Maybe you should have tempered your expectations a little bit. Her not being there, or having as much involvement as you like, should not ruin your day.

Yes, you want the support of your friend and will miss her, but it doesn’t take away from how wonderful your wedding will be. Nor should it take away from your friendship.

Post # 8
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655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB

 

Oh, well i mis understood then. I thought she was at base somewhere. Well in that case, yeah she really isn’t on her job then.

 

Post # 9
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395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Sunset Hills Country Club

CG4268: I completely understand! My MOH and I have been friends for 15 years, so it only made sense to ask her since I didn’t want to have to decide between my 2 sisters. Well, my MOH didn’t attend one of my showers, and she was late to another. The one she didn’t attend was because she was cramping. Then my bachelorette party is this weekend, and she is going but she asked my sister to plan everything because she didn’t want to. Today, we’re going to pick up the bridesmaid dresses and she isn’t going. I’ve jokingly said to my future MIL I hope she isn’t cramping the day of the wedding. But I completely understand your pain, I don’t think you’re over reacting, heck, I’m in your same boat. I’ve just began breathing through everything, and I’ve decided, no matter what happens, I’m not going to let anyone ruin mine and my fiancé’s day. Good luck girl, everything will work out, and don’t stress over it. 

Post # 10
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207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

CG4268:  I get that some people have situations that are out of their control.  It happens.  But she sounds like she’s hardly a true friend, let alone a maid of honor.  I would avoid her over the next few weeks and focus on your wedding.  Stop letting her bring you down!  Your day is going to be amazing, and if she doesn’t want to be involved at all, it’s her loss.

Post # 11
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812 posts
Busy bee

If she is in the position to be MOH why can’t you tell her how you are feeling? You gave her a month advance for your bachelorette party. There isn’t a reasonable excuse on why she couldn’t get the time off. TALK TO HER. 

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