Post # 1
My wedding is less tHan 4 months away and my maid of honor, who is also my cousin, just passed away after complications from a bone marrow transplant. I want to do something special to honor her but I’m having a hard time thinking of the perfect thing. Thanks for any suggetions
Post # 3
I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t even begin to comprehend how you must be feeling.
I’m not sure what you could do to honour her – perhaps the celebrant will have a part of the ceremony to honour those that could not be there? Lighting a candle? Or, given that it sounds as though she passed from some medical condition, perhaps donate money to an organisation that researches this condition instead of favours for your guests?
Post # 4
Oh my goodness, how sad. this must be really hard for you.
Was there anything she really liked or that kind of symbolized her? Like if she liked butterflies put a little butterfly in your centerpieces with a message on the programs about it.
Post # 5
My heart goes out to you and your family. That is so sad and I can not imagine what I would do without my moh by my side. I hope you find a great way to honor her. The only thing that I have seen is the memory candles. Maybe a Bridesmaid can carry an extra bouquet or you can have one near the altar so that she can still be by your side. Or maybe you can somehow have like a locket with her pic added to your bouquet so she will be near to you. I’m not that creative but I hope it helps!
Post # 6
What if you had a small table in her place with a picture and her bouquet?
Post # 7
@futuremrsspringer: I am so, so sorry for your loss.
@Ms. BamaFan: That is a lovely idea.
Post # 8
Oh my. I am so sorry. I lost my brother 8 years ago… While it is not the same, and your hurt is very much in the now, we have both lost very important family members. I wonder the same thing, how do I honor him without putting a ‘damper’ on the wedding.
Good luck to you, and I am thinkging about you and your family.
Post # 9
My friend Ashley got married last December. Her now hubby’s dad was supposed to be the best man and got diagnosed with cancer while they were still planning. They told him he’d have around 6 months or so, so they moved it 6 months earlier than they were originally planning on (it was like two months away from when he got diagnosed). He passed away a month before the wedding. They had the MOH walk up on her own and they had a white pillar in his dad’s spot up by the alter and then when they gave a hug and rose to the mother’s, they lit a candle and placed a white rose by it. During the prayer before eating the meal, they said something in honor of his dad, and then there was a part of the speech time that was dedicated to him with a poem that Ashley had written for him. Simple yet sweet.
Post # 10
I’m so sorry. Do you havea memento of any kind that you could have on you or on your bouquet so she could be with you?
Post # 11
So sorry for your loss. We lost my FIs mom last week, so I know how you feel! Hang in there
I havent talked to FI much about how we will memeber her at the wedding, its too soon. But I plan on having a memorial candle beside us which I will have FFIL light. I am also reserving a seat for her, and my son is the “jr best man” haha hes going to bring a rose down the aisle and place it there for her.
She had a favorite song, “tiny bubbles”. It was her mothers fav too. I planned on playing it somehow during our champagne toast before she passed. Now I am going to play it as a moment of “silence” but it will be a happy moment to celebrate her. Then we will toast to her.
I hope these ideas are helpful! I know it was important to me to not make it too sad…after all it is a happy occasion, and for us, I know FMIL would not want everyone sad on a special day.
Post # 13
Oh gosh, I am so sorry for your loss. That is heartbreaking and it’s so sweet of you to want to do something special for her.
I agree with the candle/memorial ideas. I have one more: I think it would be sweet if you still list her as your MOH in the program even though she won’t be there. You could call her your angel of honor, or you could just say she is the MOH and not officially name a replacement.
I also think it would be amazing if you could do some things to support medical research as a tribute to her. Candles and bouquets are nice, but signing up on the bone marrow registry is even better! You could do a little fundraiser/walk for research and have the whole wedding party participate. You could also give blood, donate platelets, and donate your flowers after the wedding to a local hospital.
To anyone else reading this: It is so so so easy to get on the bone marrow registry list! You literally swab the inside of your cheek and that’s it. Please consider signing up!
Post # 14
I’m so sorry for your loss 🙁