(Closed) MOH pulled a Judas move

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Should she have? Absolutely – she should have the day she decided she wans’t going to be your Maid/Matron of Honor.  I do not think you should ask for it right now though, given that she has taken legal action towards you.  You should be collecting everything you need to as “evidence” that you attempted to compensate her in every way possible.  Don’t do or say anything that could make you guys look bad.  

It totally sucks she went about it the way she did – what a bitch! First off, her injuries hardly warrant a lawsuit, but to do that to someone you call a friend?! Wow, just wow! She’s going to pay more in lawyer fees than she will get out of you guys.  I can hardly imagine she will get much $ for “pain and suffering” beyond you paying for her medical bills.  

What kind of dog do you have? I hope it’s not a pit bull…

Post # 4
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@missy92264:  Do you still have the texts that offer to pay for her bills and show that you were trying to contact her to see how she was doing?

I would find a way to print those, or contact your phone company to see if you can and use them. Would you be willing to contact a lawyer as well?

PS-Yes, I WOULD ask for the dress back.

Post # 5
2966 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I agree with the PPs that you should gather any and all proof that you went above and beyond to make her feel as comfortable and cared for as possible. All text messages (both yours and your husband’s) that state how you offered to pay for her injuries AND help her through any counseling should be up front and obvious during this investigation.

On a personal note, I am extremely sorry she did this. People show their true colors during tough times and she definitely is not a good friend. 

Best of luck and please keep us posted! 

Post # 7
5966 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Sucky…dog bites are the worst!  The good news is your liability insurance will pay to defend you AND her medical costs, the bad news?  Once they find out you have a dog with a bite history, regardless of circumstance, they’re gonna drp you guys like a safe!  

As far as the dress goes, I would seriously let it slide, I get where your coming from on it, and any reasonable person would understand, but if her recent behavior is any indication that’s just not what we’re dealing with here….since we’ve gone to legal town you could counter sue her for the dress in connection with this situation, any other form of contact could be construed as harassment.

It blows, but it’s time to lawyer up and shut this thing down before things get really out of hand.

Post # 8
2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Wow, this really sucks, but I would be more worried about the lawsuit than the dress. As the her suing you for personal injury, all she is entitled to the cost of her medical bills. She most likely will not anything for pain and suffering.

Animals are animals and accidents happen. You did everything you could and she refused monetary compensation. As PP have said, keep ALL emails, texts, voice mails. Good luck.

Post # 9
2060 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Ugh that’s so horrible! She sounds like a huge snot and I’m so sorry you are going through this!

I would email her saying “I need to collect the dress I bought for my wedding.  Please let me know when you are dropping it off or when I can pick it up.”  Something like that, which shows that in no way that the dress was a gift.  If she didn’t return in, I’d put in a claim at small claims court and sue her right back without telling her.  I know that would cost $50 or something, but it definitely would be worth it to me! Then again, I’m a little vindictive!!

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