Post # 1
My former best friend of almost 6 years and Maid/Matron of Honor was bitten by my fiance’s dog when she came out for my Bridal Shower 6 weeks before my wedding. The dog and I both had our backs to her and she came out into the hallway and called out my name, which startled him, and he went after her. I promptly took her to the Emergency Room and her 2 bites required 2 stitches on one, and 1 stitch on the other. I did my very best to take care of all her needs for the remaining 4 days she was here. We offered to pay for all of her medical bills, and my fiance even asked her what he can give her to compensate her for pain and suffering. She declined and said she was not litigious and didn’t blame either of us (nor the dog) for the bite. I called and texted her in the days to follow to make sure she was doing okay, and there didn’t seem to be a problem.
However, on the second week of returning home, her treatment of me (via text) became cold and distant. My fiance reached out to her to make sure she was doing okay and when he got the notion that she didn’t want to be in the wedding anymore, urged her to call me to advise me and not wait until the last minute to do so. She pulled out of my wedding 4 weeks before the actual date and indicated to me that she was also not going to attend the wedding citing that “she would not be ready.” I understood her position and told her it was okay and reminded her to send us all of her medical bills relating to the dog bite… even recommending that she seek therapy to deal with the trauma she endured. We did not for one moment downplay her injuries and I did not want my friendship with her to suffer. We felt very badly for what happened and wanted to make sure she understood we were there for her and were prepared to compensate her for pain and suffering. When we ended the call, we were still friends and there was no animosity whatsoever — or so I thought. I did not ask her for the Maid/Matron of Honor dress at that time (I paid for it), because I felt it would be in poor taste on my part considering what had transpired. But, I did expect her to return the dress eventually — it still had its tags and I know she hadn’t altered the dress at all.
Two weeks after my wedding took place, we came home to find a letter from her lawyer suing my new husband for “personal injury.” It wasn’t the lawsuit that upset me, but the manner in which she went about it. I felt that she could’ve/should’ve called, text or emailed me (or him) to let us know that she would feel more comfortable bringing in legal counsel. We were already prepared to compensate her. Again, we are not downplaying her injuries, but the bites were not severe enough to justify bringing a lawyer into the picture. She got greedy and well, that story is a hurtful story in itself.
My question is, shouldn’t she have returned the Maid/Matron of Honor dress by now? I bought the dress for her not as a gift, but to wear as my Maid/Matron of Honor. She did not fulfill that role and I feel the dress is rightfully mine. Before you ask, the dress can be worn for a Christmas party of NYE party. The dress would fit my daughter and I would love to be able to give it to her. Thank you for taking the time to reply.
Post # 3
Should she have? Absolutely – she should have the day she decided she wans’t going to be your Maid/Matron of Honor. I do not think you should ask for it right now though, given that she has taken legal action towards you. You should be collecting everything you need to as “evidence” that you attempted to compensate her in every way possible. Don’t do or say anything that could make you guys look bad.
It totally sucks she went about it the way she did – what a bitch! First off, her injuries hardly warrant a lawsuit, but to do that to someone you call a friend?! Wow, just wow! She’s going to pay more in lawyer fees than she will get out of you guys. I can hardly imagine she will get much $ for “pain and suffering” beyond you paying for her medical bills.
What kind of dog do you have? I hope it’s not a pit bull…
Post # 4
@missy92264: Do you still have the texts that offer to pay for her bills and show that you were trying to contact her to see how she was doing?
I would find a way to print those, or contact your phone company to see if you can and use them. Would you be willing to contact a lawyer as well?
PS-Yes, I WOULD ask for the dress back.
Post # 5
I agree with the PPs that you should gather any and all proof that you went above and beyond to make her feel as comfortable and cared for as possible. All text messages (both yours and your husband’s) that state how you offered to pay for her injuries AND help her through any counseling should be up front and obvious during this investigation.
On a personal note, I am extremely sorry she did this. People show their true colors during tough times and she definitely is not a good friend.
Best of luck and please keep us posted!
Post # 6
@MrsWBS: Unfortunately, he is a pit =(. Not sure if that was her motivating factor in hiring a lawyer. I hope not. Greed is not becoming of anyone.
Post # 7
Sucky…dog bites are the worst! The good news is your liability insurance will pay to defend you AND her medical costs, the bad news? Once they find out you have a dog with a bite history, regardless of circumstance, they’re gonna drp you guys like a safe!
As far as the dress goes, I would seriously let it slide, I get where your coming from on it, and any reasonable person would understand, but if her recent behavior is any indication that’s just not what we’re dealing with here….since we’ve gone to legal town you could counter sue her for the dress in connection with this situation, any other form of contact could be construed as harassment.
It blows, but it’s time to lawyer up and shut this thing down before things get really out of hand.
Post # 8
Wow, this really sucks, but I would be more worried about the lawsuit than the dress. As the her suing you for personal injury, all she is entitled to the cost of her medical bills. She most likely will not anything for pain and suffering.
Animals are animals and accidents happen. You did everything you could and she refused monetary compensation. As PP have said, keep ALL emails, texts, voice mails. Good luck.
Post # 9
Ugh that’s so horrible! She sounds like a huge snot and I’m so sorry you are going through this!
I would email her saying “I need to collect the dress I bought for my wedding. Please let me know when you are dropping it off or when I can pick it up.” Something like that, which shows that in no way that the dress was a gift. If she didn’t return in, I’d put in a claim at small claims court and sue her right back without telling her. I know that would cost $50 or something, but it definitely would be worth it to me! Then again, I’m a little vindictive!!
Post # 10
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Maid/Matron of Honor pulled a Judas move