(Closed) MOH refuses dress

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Normally I would just say tell her to suck it up but because she is self conscious that makes me sad for her.  What about asking her if you guys can go shopping together? Maybe help her find a dress, tell her how great she looks in it.  Do you think she would be up for that?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

“Too chubby for dresses” is ridiculous, because pants are much more revealing of one’s figure than a lot of dresses – you can get something with gathers and a full skirt that is flattering and figure-enhancing. MrsPom has a good suggestion about going shopping with her.

Post # 5
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114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MrsPom:  +1

Don’t take no for an answer.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

She needs to get over it.  She wears a dress or she doesn’t participate.  I’m sorry for sounding so harsh but seriously, YOU have enough on your plate to think about… you don’t need to be giving attention to this.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

How long ago did you ask them to find the dresses?  Has she had that information for a while and only just sprung the ‘no dress’ thing on you?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Sorry but it’s kind late for her to spring this on you. Doesn’t make sense that she too chubby for dresses, tell her to suck up. There something weird about they way she sprang on you. I really wonder if she has body issues or just being brat, but you since you know her perhaps you be able to tell.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You should go shopping, just the two of you, at stores she feels comfortable with.  Have her try on some of your picking and her picking, then maybe she will be a bit more open to a dress?

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We all have times when we don’t feel good about yourselfs. Wedding a formal event and feeling chubby is not a good enough reason to wear one. Perhaps if she never wore dresses then it might make sense to make an exception so she can feel like her self. This isn’t the case. she needs to suck it up. Just be firm and respectful with her.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

Yep, I would say she wears a dress or she is out.  She is being stressful for no good reason.  She needs to suck it up.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

no dress no moh. There are plenty of dresses that flatter fuller figures (if she is a bigger girl) Try ruching and empire waists!

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Initially I thought, “She’s being a twat, tell her to suck it up and buy the damn dress,” but now I’m sad for her. I’m sure she’s struggling with weight gain and feels like she looks awful in everything. I agree with pps, take her shopping, just the two of you. Help her find a dress and spend some one on one time with her.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

What does she want to wear. Maybe she would prefer a loose, flowy top and skirt?

Post # 16
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Helper bee

Oops! I forgot to add that this might be an okay solution because she’s your MOH, so she can wear something slightly different. 

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