- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
When I asked my teenage sisters (now 18 and 16) to be my maids of honor I wasn’t expecting too much from them, I know they are busy with sports, activities and friends, and more so I knew they weren’t as totally wrapped up in the wedding world as I was. I knew I was the only one who was going to care about things like envelope liners, milk glass, and chivari chairs. Although they were stongly opinionated in the area of chair covers, and wedding colors, they didn’t understand our budget, and how much money everything costs.
I should mention I live 5 hours away from my parents, so it isn’t as if I can go home every weekend and do projects with them, or invite them to visit venues or florists or any of that. We butted heads on somethings that they didn’t like (or understand) and had quite a few arguments while I defended things that Fiance and I had agreed on and liked. But even though I knew they didn’t always agree with me I did my best to keep them involved, asking their opinions as much as I could.
So here we are two months from the wedding and they still feel like they havn’t been able to help with anthing “real”. The only things I have left to do are all smaller (but important) projects and they have told me they want to help with “actual thigns, not lame little projects”. They were there when I picked out my dress, they talked me into getting chair covers for our venue (very happy with that decision), they helped us pick our colors (aka talked us into different colors when they didn’t like our original selection). I let them pick whatever dress they wanted (in a certain color) and could care less what shoes/hairstyle/jewlery they want to wear for the day of. And yet they only see me as a controlling perfectionist. I don’t know what else they expect me to do at this point.
I want to shut them out and just finish everything myself, but at the same time I want them to be a part of the planning process. I can’t change the past and the decisions they may not have been a part of or didn’t go the way they wanted but I can involve them now and they just don’t seem to want any part in it anymore.