(Closed) MOH Slacking or Just unorganized?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

What, specifically, are you expecting her to do?

Post # 4
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2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

… All a bridesmaid is really required to do is buy the dress and stand up with you on your wedding day.  It’s nice if they have the time and money to plan a shower, bachelorette, etc. but I would not expect those things from somebody who goes to school full-time, works two jobs, and has a child.

Post # 6
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837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Honestly, the only thing she is required to do is buy a dress and show up on time.  I understand she offered to help but she has kids, is going to school, working, trying to get her life together.  Cut her some slack…  If you need help with something ask her when she can you so she can PLAN to help.

Post # 7
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2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Tell her that you know she has a lot on her plate, but it would mean a lot to you to have her involved in the wedding.  Then ask her to help you with something specific (“hey, can you help me assemble invitations this weekend?”).  If she can’t, she can’t.  But it’s possible that she’s just clueless as to how she can be helpful.

Post # 9
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529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

What exactly is she helping you with (or said she’d help you with)?  I’m confused.  Have you tried just asking her and being like “Hey, let’s get together on _______ day to work out some details!”  Maybe she’s expecting YOU to bring it up?

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