Post # 1
I have chosen my FH’s sister to be my matron of honour. Lately I have been feeling a little bad because people have been expecting that I would choose my sister to be my MOH.
What do you think?
Before you respond here’s why I made my decision:
– there is a 12 year age difference between my sister and I so we have never been close growing up. She was always in a different stage of life that I was so we never hung out together, had any heart to hearts, shared secrets… anything that you would “expect” sisters to do. It has only been the last 2 years that we have grown closer and now do quite a bit together, talk, and the guys get along really well (and actually work together).
– my FH’s sister is like a sister to me. I have known her as long as I have know my FH (9 years) and she has always been there for me through thick and thin. I can talk to her about anything and we hang out all the time. I think of her as my best friend. Also she has been amazing through the whole wedding process and has helped SOOO much. I have no complaints at all with her.
– my sister’s entire family will be in the wedding party: her, my brother-in-law, 2 neices (as junior bridesmaid, and nephew as ring bearer)
So now… what do you think? Please be honest, I really need some opions on this. Did I make the right choice? Am I overreacting? Or did I screw up?
Post # 3
Is your sister a bridesmaid at all? If she is then I think you made the right decision in making your FI’s sister the MOH. The only way I could see this as a screw-up is if you didn’t include your own sister at all.
Post # 4
@Gingersnap: The whole family is in the wedding party. My sister (bridesmaid), her husband (groomsmen), 2 neices (junior bridemaids), nephew (ring bearer)
Post # 5
But how does your sister feel about this? I think it would bother me if i offended my sister, especially since you daid you have gotten close the past few years. But if she was ok with it i wouldnt worry about it.
Post # 6
@Alli259: Oops, misread that as your FI’s sister’s entire family. 🙂 You are totally in the right with your decision. Is someone upset over it or are you just rethinking?
Post # 7
i think you are ok in this decision. My sister was my MOH but when my sister got married i was 13 and she was 22 – she also made her husbands sister her MOH – i wasnt offended (i think it was an excuse since the MOH doesnt nessarily have to be the witness but she told me the MOH has to be 18 to sign the marriage license) which now i call BS on but at the time i was like ok that makes sense and it didnt hurt my feelings – she still made me a bridesmaid and even told me after the fact that she should have picked me haha (she may have just been saying that ) but it made me feel good either way. i really wasnt offended at all that she didnt pick me then, or now- i was so young and it was the first wedding i ever attended so i had no idea about the ins and outs of the wedding world.
plus we werent friends then, we had nothing in common at all there was a 9 year age diffence between us. We became much better friends later on so now, if she were to get remarried and didnt ask i would have her head! haha
Post # 8
My MOH is my friend and not my sister, you dont have to use your sister if you have someone else you are closer to.
Post # 9
You sister will probably see it as a slap in the face. Y’all are blood-related, regardless of the age difference. Now, when I first read it I didn’t see anything wrong with it… until you said that his sister is the MOH. It just seems like that turns everything around, IMO. I think ultimately you made the right decsion for you. But if I was in this situation, I would either pick my sister or a friend… not his sister.
Post # 10
@Gingersnap: I was at my godsons baptism yesterday and my brother-in-laws aunt said something that inplied she thought my sister would be the MOH. It was a little awkward.
@mzlouis2b: My sister is ok with it. She was just happy that we wanted the whole family in the wedding party