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Is this someone you are connected to through your husband or something? What is your connection to her that resulted in you being MOH? Give a little background and maybe we can come up with something not super awkward : )
I have to ask. How do you know her at all? And how did you end up being her MOH?
Are you more friends w/ the groom? Say how much he's changed since being with her, how he talks about her with such love, how you can see a diff. in him since they've been together, etc....
lol well you didn't keep a long story short, rather you didn't tell the story at all! i agree with the other girls, we'll need some background info. how do you know her and how did you come to be the MOH? what an odd situation to be in... hopefully we can help!
*laugh* sorry ladies..its just so werid that i felt it would become long winded.
Here you go:
I used to work at a place and was friends with these two girls, we get along wreally well and are good friends. There was only one other girl (the bride) who was the same age etc at the office so we incuded her in everything as well. She is a great gal and I love her, but she is more there bc they come as a packaje (if that makes sense) You cant hang out with the other two without including her.
I moved away after knowing her for 1.5 years. We talk via email while at work cause we are both bored as hell. She announced she was getting married (she has been with this guy for ahwile and has a kid etc...ot that it makes a difference) I say cool! She plans it for the Thanksgiving weekend (in Canada). I wasnt even planning on going to the wedding, its far away and in an isolated town.
One day she says she has something to ask me. and then (over email) asks if i will be in her wedding party. I say "oh i have never been a BM before" and she says "no i want you as MOH" I chalk it up to her having three sisters and she doesnt want to have to decide bw them. Im shocked that she asked me but obviilsy she sees me as a much closer friend then she is to me. Im not going to say "no" if this is what the brdie wants...
But i dont know her (let me re point out how i wasnt even going to go to her wedding!!) So now i have to do this speech!
(i feel like this sounds awful...she is a great person and I love her company...i think she likes me cause i am funny and she has always been able to talk to me....)
Oh gosh. Thanks for explaining.
Do you know anything about her husband to be?
You can always cover the somewhat more generic topics of the importance of family, the power of love, etc.
I also read somewhere once that the MOH speech was traditionally to give the newlywed couple advice for their marriage and life together. And you can easily do that without needing to insert too many personal details in.
*laugh* sorry ladies..its just so werid that i felt it would become long winded.
Here you go:
I used to work at a place and was friends with these two girls, we get along wreally well and are good friends. There was only one other girl (the bride) who was the same age etc at the office so we incuded her in everything as well. She is a great gal and I love her, but she is more there bc they come as a packaje (if that makes sense) You cant hang out with the other two without including her.
I moved away after knowing her for 1.5 years. We talk via email while at work cause we are both bored as hell. She announced she was getting married (she has been with this guy for ahwile and has a kid etc...ot that it makes a difference) I say cool! She plans it for the Thanksgiving weekend (in Canada). I wasnt even planning on going to the wedding, its far away and in an isolated town.
One day she says she has something to ask me. and then (over email) asks if i will be in her wedding party. I say "oh i have never been a BM before" and she says "no i want you as MOH" I chalk it up to her having three sisters and she doesnt want to have to decide bw them. Im shocked that she asked me but obviilsy she sees me as a much closer friend then she is to me. Im not going to say "no" if this is what the brdie wants...
But i dont know her (let me re point out how i wasnt even going to go to her wedding!!) So now i have to do this speech!
(i feel like this sounds awful...she is a great person and I love her company...i think she likes me cause i am funny and she has always been able to talk to me....)
@Gemstone
I dont know the husband at all. But i think your info on giving advice might be better. I feel like thats odd though as well bc they have pretty much been married for the last 5 years, they own a home and have a three year old...I JUST got married a month ago...i dont know!!! *laugh*
Yeah that is a tough situation. I would focus mostly on how you met at work and passed time by chatting. Talk about other things you all did as a group together. Talk about the things you have in common and things you enjoy about her company. If you have a cute/funny story or two, throw that in. I don't think it needs to be a long speech (I am all for the keep things to a few minutes so speeches don't go on forever!), but just mention you are happy for her and feel honored to have been her MOH and you wish them the best. You can definitely talk for a few minutes on all that kind of stuff without getting cheesy with the "most wonderful girl I know" and "lights up the room" type of speech. Good luck!!
@Baileyh: I went to a wedding last year where the MOH shared the advice that her grandparents had after 60 years of marriage. It was sentimental and came from a "credible" source. Would something like that work?
Our Best Man knew my husband for 20 years and gave a speech that sounded like he didn't know him at all, (It was something along the lines of, "I haven't needed to give a speech since college, so thanks Joe for giving me another opportunity. I've known Joe since we were boy scouts, and I'm glad he found someone who makes him happy like Jane does.")
Maybe you can just recite a poem or something and say that she is a great woman and you are glad she has found someone so compatible and you wish them many years of happiness.
I really like Gemstone's idea about sharing advice or words of wisdom - that can be done is pretty much every situation!
Same goes with Bailzoe's suggestion - simple, generic without getting TOO into your history with her, but sweet and touching!
I know this might be a little weird but maybe you could do a group speech with all the bridesmaids? I feel like her sisters must have lovely things they would want to say about her!
Definitely need background info about how you know her. Maybe you could find out more about the couple by asking them?
@Gemstone Yeah that would be much better...to credit wedding advice from an older source.
@Bailzoe thats where my concern steams from actually. My MOH who i have known for years gave a very generci "shes awsome" speech, it had no stories or laughs..it was like we didnt even know each other. and all though in this case its true, i dont know her. I just dont want the speech to be "blah"
I would toast the couple. Just wish them a happy marriage, thank everyone for coming, and don't forget to say "raise your glasses to toast jane & jack". Sometimes people forget that last part and its awkward when people don't know if they're suppose to drink yet or not!
Yes definitely remember to actually toast. Even though I told the BM/MOH, the BM forgot, the MOH said it for him (he went first).
I wouldn't worry about it sounding bland. They will be in such a state of bliss / everything going by so quickly. As long as you put effort into it, and come prepared, you will be fine. The problem with our Best Man's speech was that you could tell he made it up on the spot (and probably practiced the college speech line an hour before).
The last wedding I went to only had a Best Man speech. I would give a toast to the couple and leave out the stories.
Is there a particular poem, verse, selection of a book that you know she likes? You could read that as part of your speech. Also at my wedding, all of our attendants said something and I thought that was awesome because I was only expecting the MOH and BM to give a speech.
We have her stagette next weekend so i think i might grill her a bit about things. Im doing the game where i asked her husband questions and she has to get his answers right...so i learnt some stuff about them from that and I hope she gets some wrong and tells stories so i get more!! *laugh*
Part of me is just nervous as well. I have never been a MOH before and i want to make sure its just right for her. I think my speech should be funny bc thats what she likes best about me...so i will have to start thinking hard.
i love gemstone's idea. maybe you could do a poll of a bunch of couples that have been together for awhile--parents, grandparents, etc... and read that. i think that would be really sweet without being obvious that you don't have much to say about the bride.
I love your "game" idea for the stagette. That sounds like it will elicit some stories to share. I also love pb&j's idea about advice. Maybe you could incorporate this by having people write advice during the bridal shower (if she is having one).I guess this is what you get for being so nice to people! hahaha.
Good luck!
I agree with everyone on giving some advice. Also, you can comment on their love for each other and how evident it was throughout their ceremony. What an honor it is for all of the guests to gather and celebrate in that love, etc.
Thanks for all your help ladies!!! <3
MY...what did i DO before i found weddingbee!! 
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So its a very very weird situation but im MOH in a wedding and i dont really know the bride!
To keep a long story short i dont know what to write for a speech!!!!!! I dont wnat it to corny with the whole "sweetest girl i know, so funny, her eyes light up a room" but i dont have any history with her really, we have never gone on adventures so i have no stories etc.
I feel AWFUL but need to come up with something!