(Closed) MOH toast

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I ask another bridesmaid to toast us at our wedding, since MOH is uncomfortable??
    YES since you've cleared it with the MOH : (27 votes)
    79 %
    No, your dad giving a toast is sufficient : (7 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    my sister was kind of the same way so she gave a speech at the rehearsal dinner instead – less people, mostly family so she felt fine. she did get up and say something at the wedding but it was quick and more of a congrats than the mushy stuff the night before.

    i would ask another BM to do it, if you have one that would be comfortable with standing up and speaking.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I’ll repeat for you what our wedding planner said to our best man, who hates public speaking: toast =/= speech. Would she be okay with just a short, two-sentence toast?

    All she really needs to say is something like, “nbencze and nbencze’s FI, I’m so glad to be able to share in your special day, and I wish you all the happiness in the world. To the newlyweds!”

    Just a thought before you go out of your head trying to choose someone else. But if she absolutely cannot bring herself to say even just a few words, then I would just keep the toasts to your dad and the best man and not worry about finding a replacement toaster for your MOH.

    Post # 5
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I think you should definitely ask another bridesmaid to toast.  I would think it was weird that none of your friends toasted you while the best man did.  Since the MOH is fine with this I really don’t see the dilema at all.  Asking someone else seems like the natural choice.

    Post # 6
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    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would ask another BM

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    MOH toast is a new tradition and not one that all people do. I don’t think you need to delegate someone else to do it unless its somebody that you have that same sentiment with and think it would be really special. Personally, if my MOH wasn’t comfortable, I wouldn’t choose someone else because although they are my best friends, people I’ve known for 10-18 years, people I could go to for anything and tell anything to, I don’t have that same ultra close relationship with them like I do with my MOH. Do you know what I mean? So you really have a choice here.

    Post # 8
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I believe it is more than okay to ask another BM.  I know the last wedding I was in, I ended up making the speech because the MOH felt the same way. 

    Post # 9
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    Blushing bee

    At a wedding I attended recently, the MOH was the bride’s teenaged sister, and while she did give a short speech, you could tell she wasn’t really comfortable speaking and she was only making a speech because it was a formality.  Another bridesmaid, a friend of the bride, gave a subsequent toast, that I considered to be the “real” toast.  I don’t think anyone would think it was weird.

    Post # 11
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I hate public speaking, as does my sister/MOH so I was happy to tell her she didn’t have to give a speech b/c that means I won’t have to do it at her wedding! We ended up just having the best man speech, and I was fine with that. I think either way would be fine.

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I think it would be totally fine to ask another BM to do it. My man’s brother did a speech, and while it was cute and sweet he didn’t really say much about me. Having someone on your side saying things will help to keep things even and no one will be forgotten 🙂

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I think it’s totally fine to ask another bridesmaid.  FI was actually going to ask his brother to be his best man, but he didn’t feel comfortable with speaking in public or having such a prominent role in the wedding.  So he actually made his best friend the best man, and his brother is just a groomsman.  I probably would’ve stuck with my bro and just had the best friend do the speech, but my point is that if you clear it with all parties, then I think you can do whatever you want!

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