Post # 1
I just recently got engaged and, as I’m moving across the country in 2 weeks, I thought i’d ask my best friend now to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. She was totally thrilled and started organising my hens night and was super excited.
And then suddenly, she wasnt.
I have NO idea what happened. She had admitted to me that she was envious but that hadn’t really seemed to be a big deal. But then she stopped talking to me and contacting me. Now I’ve spent the last week trying to organise mine and my FH belongings onto a truck and trying to spend as much time with everyone as possible before I leave. She finally contacted me two days ago and ended up having a huge go at me, told me she was no longer interested in being my Maid/Matron of Honor, in my wedding or in my life and that was it. I have no idea what I did.
I’m both really upset about this and kinda relieved. I had a feeling that it was coming for the past two weeks and I’m happy that I found out now about how she feels than closer to the wedding. But I still feel really guilty and sad about this.
I guess I just want to know if anyone else went through something like this and, if you were really upset, how did you move on from it?
Post # 3
Oh wow. That sucks! The only thing I can suggest is having a heart-to-heart with her about it and try to find out what’s wrong.
Post # 4
she is upset because her close friend is moving across the country and, in her eyes, ditching her, sounds like she is dealing with it by lashing out at you. not healthy. Can you try to talk to her to find out why she feels like this?
Post # 5
It’s hard for any of us to say why she is actually upset. having friendships end is difficult, and I find comfort in my loved ones. Also, this is not your fault. You feeling guilty is perhaps a natural reaction but by no means is it true. If you honestly have no idea what’s going on, this is in her court. I don’t know about you but I don’t have room in my life for negative people like that, and while it hurts that people don’t want to be in my life anymore it is also a good thing because I deserve better then to be treated that way. I hope you feel the same way about your life. Talk to you Fiance and concentrate on your new life that is beginning. If she wants to not be part of your life anymore set her free in your own way by trying to let go of the friendship. I’m sorry you’re going through this.
Post # 6
Thanks guys. I tried having a heart to heart with her- that’s when she blew up at me. I tried to ask her what was wrong but all I got back was negativity. It was like she didn’t want to try and fix it. I know I certainly did! I’m undecided about whether to contact her. When I told her I was upset at what she said she told me she wasn’t sad at all, she was happy!
I know I shouldn’t feel guilty and I am partly glad that I won’t have to deal with her pushing me away or her negative and passive agressive comments- that’s probably why I feel guilty! haha.