Post # 1
my Maid/Matron of Honor has cancelled on me everytime we are suppose to get together to work on wedding projects…even when I just ask her to hang out Not Wedding Related she will say yes and then an hour before she will cancel 🙁 I mean it has happened for the past year–probably 3 times a month she will cancel…I see her about every two months. She is in a new relationship and spends 24/7 with him…but she won’t make time for me or anything to do with my wedding… I’ve always made time for her even though I have a two year old and my fiance to spend time with also.
I’m just sad about it and I don’t feel like we are even close enough for her position in my wedding anymore. Her new boyfriend has told her how she isn’t aloud to drink or be around alcohol at my bachelorette party and wedding…umm?
I bought personalized shot glasses especially for a photo op! Am I being ridiculous? I just don’t understand how she can bail on me all the time. None of my bridesmaids live in the same state accept her and I have no one to help me with wedding projects. Should I just suck it up and do them myself? I don’t even know why I am complaining or why I feel hurt. Maybe I am being over sensitive?
Post # 3
I can definitely understand you being upset, but keep in mind even though she is your maid of honor, she really isn’t required to help you with any wedding projects.
That being said, I think she’s being a pretty crappy friend in general…and I would be worried that her man is telling her what she is or is not allowed to do (whether it’s alcohol related or not).
Post # 4
It sucks that she keeps bailing 🙁 I’m sorry. As for the drinking, if he doesn’t want her to and she’s okay with that, that’s a personal decision… you can just put apple juice in her glass for the picture. Maybe try letting her know that you’re upset by telling her how sad you are with no one to work on projects with next time you talk to her. Hopefully she’ll get the hint?
Post # 5
Yeah, I have even told her she doesn’t have to help me with these projects but I would just like to hang out or see her. I’ve even said “if you get sick of wedding talk, I will stop” and I have stopped, I feel like I am putting forth all of the effort just to stay friends with her.
I wish I could tell her I don’t want her part of my wedding party any more, that’s just how frustrated I am…since she doesn’t seem to care at all…