Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor is super excited about the wedding and has been wanting to go to Vegas for my bachelorette party. I told her it was a great idea because it did sound like it at first, but the more I think about it, the more I realize that it just isn’t me. I don’t like touristy places at all and avoid them like the plague when traveling. I’m not into gambling or excessive drinking.. or even shopping for that matter (I actually hate shopping). Plus 2 of my other Bridesmaid or Best Man won’t be able to come because of finances, and one just flat out doesn’t want to go to Vegas. I can’t even really afford it myself.
My ideal bachelorette party/getaway would be renting a cabin on the beach in Tofino, taking a surfing lesson, have tons of good wine and West Coast food. Lay on the beach and have a bon fire and watch the stars with some of my closest friends. That’s what I feel fits me best. I don’t want a rowdy party… I just want a good experience out in nature and away from cities. Pretty much the EXACT opposite of going to Vegas.
Should I just buck up and tell my Maid/Matron of Honor this is what I want even though I know she’s soooo stoked on Vegas? I know the Maid/Matron of Honor is supposed to plan the Bachelorette Party, but how much say do I have in things?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Tell her. Yes, she’s supposed to plan it, but with your guidance. The bachelor party is for your benefit, not hers.
You can take her to Vegas for HER bachelorette. I completely understand where you’re coming from- I’m thinking about a wine festival for mine, then dinner.
Post # 4
Tell her that! I think being honest with her is the best thing you could do for yourself.
Post # 5
Tell her…if she is your best friend, she should be more than happy to do what YOU want.
Post # 6
I would certainly tell her you don’t want to go to Vegas.
You do realize though, that if you have to fly from Halifax to Tofino, it’s going to cost way more than going to Vegas. Travel within Canada is always more expensive than charters to US well- travelled destinations, plus you have to get from Vancouver or Victoria to Tofino.
I’m not sure how a Tofino trip would be better budget wise for you or your BM’s, unless they will already be on the West Coast.
Could you plan the same type of excursion with an east coast destination?
Post # 7
I would be honest about it. 3 bridesmaids not coming would be detractor enough for me.
Post # 8
Yeah, definitely tell her! It’s really hard to have fun in Vegas if you’re not a Vegas person.
Post # 9
You definitely should tell her the truth. No trip will be fun if people aren’t into it!
Post # 10
I agree that you should tell her. I’m sure she would want you to be happy and enjoy your bachelorette party.
Post # 11
I had the same problem!! My Maid/Matron of Honor wanted to go to Vegas, but I finally had to tell her, “Look, the whole drinking/partying thing isn’t me, I don’t want to go out to clubs, It would be waaay too expensive, and only a few people would be able to go”. She was a little offended/disappointed but it’s all good!
Post # 12
@julies1949: I’m from Victoria and live in Halifax for school. I’ll be there for 2 months this summer and Tofino is a quick 4 hour drive. It’s definitely a lot more budget friendly than Vegas.
Post # 13
Thanks everyone! I just didn’t want to step on her toes or make her feel like her idea was stupid. In some ways I feel like it’s because she wants to go, not because it’s something I would like to do. So hopefully she can get over her disappointment 🙂 haha.. I’m such a nature person and cities stress me out, so I hope she can understand.
Post # 14
She can pick the place and organize everything but I would definetively tell them you want. Fiance and I work in tourism in Nova Scotia and have done a lot of work with bachelor and bachelorette and they are so much more fun when its a group of people just having genuine fun together. I think the idea of a surfing lesson is genius.
Post # 15
I would just tell her what you prefer. she’ll understand.
Post # 16
My Maid/Matron of Honor is the same–she has all these crazy ideas of these big giant trips and I just have to keep telling her “No, not everyone can afford that and it’s a lot of mess. I’d rather just stay in town and have a good dinner and go out dancing and drinking and come back to someone’s house for a slumber party.”
Just tell her–she’s your BFF and she shouldn’t get upset that you don’t want to do something you don’t want to do. Tell her that you can go to Vegas for HER bachelorette party.