(Closed) MOH wants to “talk” with me after shower….

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Tell her she has to make time to talk to you beforehand, so you aren’t dreading what should be an important event. Stay calm and be the bigger person. Tell her ” I really would have appreciated you at my hair trials, and I am sorry I could not make yours, if this has become an issue can we please talk about it over the phone or on some day other than the shower. I would rather not have any drama there.”

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Yowsers, that’s a tough one, but you should enjoy your shower.  Do you have any BM that could whisk you away after the shower and go do something fun so you can look forward to something?  I agree with you, it’s not the appropriate time to talk.  Can you send another nice email or sorry you’re frustrated thing with a little gift to try to appeae her a bit and apologize for forgetting about her thing?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I know we are only getting your side of the story but it sounds like she’s being very childish (“Like you don’t”).  I would say that you don’t want this to taint your shower, and you would like to sit down and discuss this like adults.  No name-calling allowed.  Either before or after the shower, as your schedule permits.

It definitely sounds like you guys need to talk, so try to make it a positive “growing closer” talk rather than an all-out fight.

Post # 8
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330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Under no circumstances should you need to suck up to your MOH. No one wants to be Bridezilla, but she is there for you, not the other way around.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Why are you having her as MOH? If she is so hurtful, unhelpful, and has called you the C word to your face, why would you want her to stand up there with you? If I were you I would just tell her that maybe it would be best if she weren’t MOH, maybe not even in bridal party at all.

But, as far as the talk goes, tell her that you won’t talk to her after the shower becuase it is supposed to be happy and fun, but you are will ing to talk to her on a different day, either before or after.

Post # 10
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330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree. Listen to your heart and know what will make you happy on your day

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with Rosie Girl, why would you want someone as your MOH if she’s mean to you?  I’d tell her that she is out of the wedding party and that if she would like to talk to you about the situation that has developed between the two of you then she can do so at another time, but that your shower is for being happy and not to stir up unwanted drama.

Post # 13
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330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think you’ll feel better if you can hold it (and her) together for a serious talk but know that you are ok if she steps down. That way, if she holds it over your head, you can say, I think you’re right, maybe you should step down

Post # 14
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330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Daisylynn. agreed.

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