Post # 1
Hi ladies (and any gentlemen out there!),
I am going to try on bridesmaids dresses tomorrow for the wedding I will be in in August. The bride, C, mentioned a few weeks ago that she might want to put me in a different color dress than the other bridesmaids. I would wear a plastic bag if she asked me to, so I was excited to have her think about making me stand out as Maid/Matron of Honor a little. That being said, if she changed her mind, I wouldn’t care. I’m just honored to stand up there with her as she gets married.
A couple days ago, she brought up the color thing again and asked what I wanted to do. She doesn’t want to be in charge of deciding it anymore, so she tossed the decision to me. Honestly, I would love it either way. The change in color does make me excited, but it also makes me nervous. The three other bridesmaids are her sisters. Would I be creating drama by being in a different color? Would it stir up jealousy?
Help! What should I do?
Post # 3
I said go for it! But, maybe I am biased bc my Maid/Matron of Honor is wearing a different color dress. I have also done this as a Maid/Matron of Honor and loved it. I don’t think that you wearing a differnt color dress would stir things up about jealousy… unless there is already some jealousy already going around about you being MOH? Maybe you can just ask her why she changed her mind hte first place?
Post # 4
I too was going to have my Maid/Matron of Honor wear a different color dress. Once we went dress shopping we decided that there was nothing that really matched my theme so she ended up getting the same color as all of the other girls. However, I ordered her a totally different bouquet so she would still stand out at the ceremony!! 🙂
Post # 5
I say go for it. I certainly wouldn’t worry about her sisters/BMs … they already know you were chosen as Maid/Matron of Honor, so wearing a different dress shouldn’t be a big deal.
Post # 6
So my Maid/Matron of Honor is wearing the same color as my bridesmaids BUT the ladies are carrying White Lillies wrapped with Red silk, MOH is carrying White Lillies wrapped with Black silk and im carrying Red Lillies wrapped with Black Silk. I know it sounds weird but it looks really nice. OK im not a selfish flashy person BUT its my wedding day haha and i want the attention on me 🙂 So after a lot of talking about with family memebers we aggreed that putting my laides in black and Maid/Matron of Honor in red would draw attention to the BAM red! If you want to do a different color maybe pick one just a few shades off of the other ladies. But really if she doesnt care at all, go for it! 😀
Post # 7
What about doing same colors but you in a different style or wearing a different colored sash? I think it looks a little odd if the Maid/Matron of Honor is in a completely different color, but a slight variation in dresses or a pop of color would look good.
Post # 8
I would think that if it was me in your situation, I might still want to look like a bridesmaid and being in an entirely different color would make me feel like just another guest. Maybe a variation of the color or a special Maid/Matron of Honor sash to change up the look a little. Plus perhaps a slightly larger bouquet? There’s all kinds of options out there. I don’t think you’ll be starting any kind of drama by being in a different color if that’s what you think you’d like to do though:)
Post # 9
You could have a detail in a different color. With my girls, they are all wearing the same black dresses but my Maid/Matron of Honor will have a purple sash and my BM’s will have teal sashes. My Bridesmaid or Best Man bouquets are also going to have teal feathers in them and my MOH will have the same bouquet but with purple flowers. That way she will stand out as my Maid/Matron of Honor but still look like a part of my Bridal Party.
Post # 10
I’m a little bit on the OCD side, so I can’t handle any of the girls being a different color. My Maid/Matron of Honor is just going to have to look like the rest of the girls.
Post # 11
I put my Maid/Matron of Honor in a different color, and it looked great. None of the other girls cared. Though, our dresses had two colors, so all the girls had the same colors, but they were switched…if that makes any sense.
Here’s a picture–I think they looked great!
Post # 12
You should talk to her first before you decide on the color. Just ask her if she thinks her sisters will be mad about it. I completely understand why she doesn’t want to make the decision, but I would just make sure she doesn’t know ahead of time that her sisters would be nasty about it. Other than that, go for it! I’ve never been to a wedding where the Maid of Honor wore anything different, but I’ve heard of it and it sounds cool 🙂
Post # 13
@Ms. Library: My Maid/Matron of Honor is wearing a different dress in a different color. I love the way it looks!
Post # 14
@Miss Tattoo: yay! It’s not just me.
Post # 15
Thanks ladies! In my wedding, I put my Maid/Matron of Honor in a completely different color (she even had a print on her dress!) and I loved how it looked. My concern isn’t standing out or not standing out, it’s just keeping the peace with the other bridesmaids in case they would be all uppity about something like that. I just don’t want to cause the bride any un-due headaches.
Post # 16
I love when the Maid/Matron of Honor dress is a different color! Looks great!