MOH Woes.

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

You should have whoever is closest to you be your MOH. Bridal parties are not tit for tat. 

Post # 4
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I was MOH last year for my friend. She is just a bm for mine. I just flat out asked her to be bm and told her my childhood friend was MOH. Real, true friends should not have an issue. 

Post # 5
42082 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would put everything on hold for the time being. Let her continue to enjoy her moment in the limelight. You may find that this is not such a big deal to her as you anticipate. After having her own wedding, the financial obigation and time commitment  of being MOH may not hold as much appeal to her.

When it comes time, ask her to be  a BM. I wouldn’t offer any explanation of why she is not your MOH.

Post # 6
2614 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@rebeccalena:  Hmmm… Maybe you could ‘get her back’ by being a bridezilla yourself!!! 😉

But seriously, it shouldn’t be too big a deal. I’ve been bm three times but didn’t ask any of them to be mine. It’s customary in Ireland to only have a couple and could either have 1 or at least 10!

Post # 7
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It doesn’t have to be “equal” like that. Choose who you think will be the best fit for your bridal party. Also, since she’s been such a pill anyway, definitely wait some time before asking her. After the wedding passes, she may go back to being her normal self (assuming her normal self is someone you really like!), or she may turn into one of those Married Monsters.

I think sometimes brides make their wedding party choices too soon, and then there can be a lot of pain and stress later.


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