(Closed) MOH/Best Man nightmare! I’m so hurt! Not sure how to handle this

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If that happens I would probably uninvite her. It sounds like you’re having a super intimate wedding, so it’s not like they’ll get lost in the crowd. But I would try and talk it out with her first, maybe it’s something you two can move beyond and since FI isn’t really friends with her BF anyway, it’s probably not worth losing your best friend over. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I will shine some light from another side – she didn’t say this to you directly, so I would talk to her about it first.

No matter what the result is, if he decides that he isn’t comfortable being best man, IMO – this should have no weight on your decision to have her at your wedding.

Perhaps, and this is pure speculation; he accepted the best man position thinking he would have the opprotunity to get to know your FI better before the wedding, and now that he wasn’t able to spend time with him, he feels awkward about being a BM to someone he barely knows….. 

Post # 5
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Honestly this all sounds a bit petty, her BF being mad at you for cancelling a dinner date? I mean if he wants to get to know your FI you can still talk on skype or msn or google voice or all the other modern methods of long distance communication. I really dont see why he wants to step out of the wedding because of this.

Frankly I would just get a different Best Man or have no best man at all

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@bells: I would agree. 

Keep in mind even though 4 months seems short to you right now, it’s really a long time and things can change.  Right now you’re upset, you are going to need to let this blow over a little bit.  Write her a letter, email or something if you don’t want to speak to her directly.  Try not to get any other friends involved, sometimes that just fuels the fire.  Cool down and then reapproach it. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ooh, I’m sorry. 🙁 But like you said, if she is willing to do it over something like this, it probably is for the best. Good luck with everything, I hope things turn around!

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