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Does anyone else feel like when you talk to your MOH or a bridesmaid that it's very similar to beating your head into a wall??
But you keep trying and then you feel like the fly trying to get through a window who is like "maybe this time...maybe this time....maybe this time." But you can just never get through...

grrr

I've about had my fill of MOH R. At first she was going to be the only one up there with me for two reasons. One: I was always under the impression the bride bought the BM dresses. Two: She's been my best friend since 2004.
But then I got fed up with her and realized brides don't have to buy the dresses and I asked another friend to be a bridesmaid. NOW, I've so had my fill that the bridesmaid is now a MOH as well, MOH D. And MOH D has gone with me to 4 bridal salons now and was with me when I found THE dress.

MOH R on the other hand never can find the time to come anywhere with me, or hardly talk to me. She can hardly find the time....when she has no job. She sits at home....all day. I'm not knocking her unemployment because I'm unemployed too....which is why I have time to go hang out with MOH D, and do all sorts of stuff.

But everytime I call her or text her she has something she's doing or needs to do so she can't talk or spend time with me. And she doesn't listen to anything I say so then she asks me stuff I already told her and I'm just like "Seriously??" My fiance asks me all the time "Is she a little ditzy?" And it's not that she's stupid...its that she just doesn't focus, she's off in the clouds. And that's fine but when it's constantly and when it's like she just doesn't care anything about me or the wedding...it's getting very very old very very fast.

Ok venting done. Thank you.

Feel free to vent about your MOH/BM's :) Make me feel like I'm not the only one who wants to rip their hair out.

I know that my wedding isn't as important to everyone else as me. But my problem is that she's just not even being a decent friend at this point. No matter how many times I try to talk to her or try to spend time with her she always has something better to do.

I can see where I may have made it seem like I'm mad because she's not helping with wedding stuff. It's not that. I mean there's nothing for her to help with right now anyways. I just am tired of how she's acting as a friend really.

art, your post made me laugh. I read it to my FI and he seconded it. Sucks that it's true, but we're all here for you, and at least you have MOH D. P.S. If MOH R was a good friend beforehand, don't demote her, you're super frustrated now I GET IT, but you will probably regret it later :(

No, I'm not going to demote her, as much as I want to sometimes whenever I'm mad. She'll stay MOH. I'm just venting really.

And as far as I know nothings going on in her life. She didn't want to work anymore, so it's not the unemployment. She lives with her fiance who is also jobless (they live with his parents) so she's not missing him. She's still happy with him.

I'm not really venting about her wedding involvement because like I said, there hasn't been anything for her to do except maybe come with me to a bridal salon. But what I'm griping about is her actions as a friend, she just happens to be apart of my wedding.

If there was no wedding going on and she was acting like this, I would still be mad. She has nothing going on, yet she's always "too busy" to talk to me or ever hang out. I mean no job, no school, no kids, nothing.