(Closed) MOH's Hair

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I only had a MOH and no other attendants.  We went to the salon together, and I requested that her hair be up, but she had control on the style.  I also reqeuested that she do her own makeup, choose her own jewelry, and choose her own shoes.  She was fine with it.  I would ask your MOH if she’s okay with an updo – totally not controlling – I think it’s a normal request.

Post # 4
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2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@bella91182:  It depends, are you paying for the stylist or is she? It’s perfectly ok to have a guideline, say like I want you with an updo, or your hair down. Anything specific needs to be paid for by you.

Post # 5
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763 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I personally can’t stand when someone else tells me how to wear my hair.  I look horrible in up-do’s, and would be really annoyed if someone asked me to do an updo for their wedding. 

Why don’t you let your MOH wear her hair how she feels comfortable wearing it? She’s your MOH…presumably she’s done a lot to help you out with your wedding…why control her hairstyle?

Post # 7
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7908 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

If she is paying for her own hair, you can have a discussion about your preferences, but really you only have the right, in my opinion, of veto (if it really is truly horrible).

You are free to tell her, however, that you would prefer an updo and let her think about it.

Post # 8
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763 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@bella91182:  Yikes…doesn’t sound like she deserves the title of MOH then…

Post # 11
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763 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

So are you paying for her hair, then?  Or is she expected to pay for it? Have you seen the picture of what she’d like to do with her hair?  If not, did she give you any details?

ETA: Just saw your new post, do disregard above.

Post # 12
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7908 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@bella91182:  I you are paying, you decide.

Post # 13
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386 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I had the same problem. I was paying for it and I KNOW she is not uncomfortable with her hair up (she wears it up all the time) she simply wanted it down for my wedding. I told her no and after a lot of complaining she chose an updo. Yeah a lot of people here don’t like the idea of telling someone how to wear their hair but in the end I was asking for something pretty simple and I feel like with everything else that was going on she could do this one thing. Just tell her you would prefer it up and let her pick the style of updo, I see no issue with this. I would not pay for someone to have their hair in a style that I didn’t want.

Post # 14
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763 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

But what I don’t get is why people want to make others feel uncomfortable? Tell her that she can pay to have her hair done any way she wants…I don’t get it.

Post # 15
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386 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

@Happy2bMrs:  Sometimes it has nothing to do with the person feeling uncomfortable. My BM wanted her hair exactly like mine on my wedding day. EXACTLY like it. I was not okay with this and you have to draw the line somewhere. Sometimes the other person is the one being unreasonable, I know everyone is afraid of being bridezilla and offending their bms but at a point you have to say “it’s my wedding, you agreed to be in it and I’m not asking for much”.

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