- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
My one and only Bridesmaid or Best Man, my Maid/Matron of Honor, became semi distant when another friend of ours became engaged after I did, who’s wedding is 8 months after mine since she’s Maid/Matron of Honor there too. I feel like second fiddle and it’s annoying. She even tried to convince me to select another dress for her as what I liked (and her too) matched the other brides vision. We have the same colors. I basically let her have it at that point.
I’m having a Destination Wedding and since its small I never thought I would have a shower. Maid/Matron of Honor said that she thinks I should have one as a “bridal right”. I agreed reluctantly. But I thought it would be nice for the grandparents and others who wont be going to the wedding. I think the final count is 10 or 12 people. From the begining she told me she doesnt have a lot of money to keep it small. That wasnt going to be an issue, I just wanted everyone together. My mother suggested her home, but with Future Mother-In-Law (who is another story in itself) I was pretty vocal about not letting my mother play hostess, as I knew it would create tension.
Maid/Matron of Honor shot down every place I suggested, and vetoed places that didnt have menus/pricing listed online since she didnt want to call. She also nitpicked every menu since she’s an extremely picky eater. No allergies or veganism type, just doesnt like alot of things. At that point I gave up, gave her my address list and left. My mother, being foreign, is quite unfamiliar with this and just let her have free range, as I expected.
Faat forward to yesterday and I find out that the venue is 10-20 minutes away from all the guests, but an hour from my house thru local traffic. I have to travel east but so does everyone else. I’m just going the furthest. I wish it didn’t bother me but it does. Why couldn’t it have been some happy medium? I also was told that my mother is footing the entire bill. That extremely bothers me, because I feel like she’s abusing my mother’s naive-ness about this whole thing.
Am I wrong for being upset about her recent actions?