- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
I think I posted this in the wrong spot initially so I am moving this on over!!!! So sorry for the length of the post!!!!!!!!!
I am new to thithe boards and this is my first ever post. I have been reading the posts all week and I have finally decided on a moissanite ring over a diamond. I am going to apologize in advance, this will more than likely be a long, rambling post!!!
My boyfriend and I have been talking for some time about getting engaged and I’m not going to lie, I have started to become a bit anxious!!! After researching the type/size ring that I want I came to the relization that this ring would be upwards of $8-10k. Personally, I think that is a ridiculous amount of money to pay when you are working on starting your life together. Props to everyone that can afford that but we cannot without going into debt. Yes we (he) can save for it and get it eventually but when it actually got to the point of purchasing I think I would have felt down right guilty knowing that money could have went towards something else (wedding, home, savings, etc). We talked about it and he just keeps reiterating the fact that diamonds are “just so damn expensive”. I agree!! And come to think about it, I truly don’t know how comfortable I would be walking around with that much money on my finger. Did I mention how accident prone I am???
I started researching diamond alternatives earlier in the week and stumbled upon the remarkable moissanite. I had no idea such a stone existed. I really thought the only thing out there that resembles a diamond was a CZ and I really wasn’t interested in that. I researched the heck out of this stone and came to the personal decision that maybe this was a route we should investigate. While I was at work I emailed my boyfriend about it and the fact that I truly don’t need a diamond and his response was priceless “I never thought those words would come out of a womans mouth”. His main concern was that it would look cheap and that I would think he was cheap because we decided on a non diamond. I told him over and over again that I would much rather have that extra money put into something else or in savings. I truly think his biggest concern was that people would be able to tell it’s not a diamond. I couldn’t care less, honestly. I mean, I’m not going to shout from the rooftops that it’s a moissanite but if I am asked I will definitely answer appropriatly. If anything, I am proud we will be taking the more financially responsible route. So many people/men put themselves in a financial bind because of the stigma that comes with diamonds and engagement rings. Again, I am not bashing diamonds or people that can afford the big beautiful rocks but frankly, I have expensive taste and I would rather get another stone that I can flaunt in a bigger size. I ended up showing him all the photos of your beautiful rings and even some videos of side by sides with diamonds and I finally have him conviced! We are going this weekend to get my finger sized and to try on different sizes of stones so I have a better idea of what I am going to be getting.
We are looking at Moissaniteco and are looking at the following ring….
We are looking at either the 1.1 carat or the 1.4. I am going to try a 1 and a 1.5 this weekend. I want to make sure that the 1.4 won’t look too gaudy as I have pretty small hands. I am hoping and praying that it doesn’t look ridiculous because I would LOVE to have the 1.4!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So now that you all know my life story (lol) I do have some questions…
1.We are looking to get the forever brilliant (no amora in stock…sad). Is the enhancement totally worth it? I don’t think I am super color sensative and would think the warmer tones would make it less glassy looking but I don’t really want an overly apparent yellow hue to it.
2.Did it take some convincing your man that a diamond is not everything? Did he have the initial reaction that mine did? (not wanting me to think he was being cheap)
3.To the ladies with channel settings from moissaniteco, do the stones seem secure in your settings? I am worried that they could be loose. I guess I just want to be secure with the integtrity of their settings. I love a lot of them and really would rather purchase the entire ring through them as opposed to getting a stone set somewhere else.
4.White Gold vs Pallodium? I have no gold allergies, just wondering what you ladies think is best.
5.Ring photos please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks so much for reading my ridiculously long post. Any guidance would be appreciated! I will probably be a frequent poster here now!