Post # 1
I feel like I’ve read every single thread about moissanite vs diamond and I still don’t feel like I know what to expect. I know most people are advising to just buy a loose moissanite and see if I like it, but it’s not something I can do. Me and my bf are long distance right now and he’d be purchasing the ring straight and I wouldn’t see it til the proposal! Anyway so here are my thoughts:
I like shiny clear rocks that sparkle lots…and thats about it. I’ve never really worn jewelery, I’ve always been pretty simple, but I do want a nice shiny engagement ring. I have nothing against diamond, but I also have nothing FOR diamond. I don’t own any diamond, nor have I really seen any other than on random peoples fingers/quickly browsing at a jewlery store. Therefore, I feel like I really have no expectations from the ring haha. From all I’ve read about moissanite/seen in pictures/videos, I think that it is very shiny ring that shoots out lots of colors-and I like that. My boyfriend could easily afford a diamond of the size we are looking for, but I can’t for the life of me justify him spending that much just on a piece of jewelry…especially when I probably wouldn’t even notice if it was a diamond, or CZ, or moissanite, or any other clear stone for that matter. I’d rather save up that money for an eventual downpayment on a house.
What my main concern is though are the people around me. I know their opinions shouldn’t bother me, but my family is very old-school and would think my boyfriend is incredibly “cheap” if he didn’t buy me a diamond. I don’t buy into the notion that I absolutely need a diamond for him to show me his love-but unfortunately not everybody sees it that way. But at the same time, I don’t think anyone in my family knows much about diamonds either, let alone moissanite. So my ultimate question is, would they know? Obviously I’m not going to straight up say it is a diamond, but I also don’t want them to wonder. I don’t think they will be rude about it and ask me straight up if it’s diamond, unless there is very very obvious reason to.
So, can moissanite be mistaken as diamond by the average person?
Post # 2
Nobody’s asked me if my engagement ring is a diamond or not. I’ve told a few people that it’s actually moissanite, but if anyone’s noticed it’s not a diamond, they’ve never said so. I have been complimented on how sparkly it is, and also on my choice of setting. If you want a moissy, go for it! I wouldn’t trade mine for the world. Excuse my foot in the picture, lol.I took it a few seconds ago.
Post # 3
Also, the orange color in my center stone is the reflection of my phone’s case. It’s colorless pretty much 95% of the time.
Post # 4
Thanks! That is definitely helpful. I love your setting! Do you know how thick the band is?
Post # 5
theeebride007: No problem! The listing on moissaniteco.com says the band is 2.2-2.4 millimeters. My ring size is 5.5, and the center stone is a 5.5mm cushion.
Post # 6
I can sometimes tell that a stone is moissanite, usually when it is quite large. How about lab created diamonds? They are exactly the same chemical structure as mined diamonds, just man-made. They are about half the price of mined diamonds I think.
Post # 7
I have a moissanite and nobody has ever assumed it is anything other than a diamond (some people I have told, most people I haven’t bothered because I don’t need to go through the whole moissanite discussion with people I barely know). We could have afforded a diamond fairly easily but I didn’t see the point since they look 99% the same to me.
I know a couple of people who lost their expensive diamond engagement rings, or put them in safes never to be worn again because they were so scared about losing them. I just wanted a sparkly clear stone that wasn’t going to chip or discolor, and moissanite has been everything I wanted at an incredibly good price.
I can wear my ring everywhere because I’m not scared about losing or breaking it. I get plenty of compliments from people about how lovely my ring is (the fire of moissanites really is gorgeous). Nobody has ever called me out on it not being a diamond or made a big deal of it if I mentioned that it wasn’t, and I’ve even had jewelers assume it was a diamond. I would absolutely get a moissanite again if I lost my current ring. And frankly, even if you changed your mind and wanted a diamond later, it’s easy enough to change the stone.
Post # 8
At one point my partner and I looked like not being able to get a diamond ring and after lots of research I found a really good alternative, called Diamond Fusion. http://www.darje.com.au/diamond_Hybirds.ews I went and looked at loose stones and I honestly could NOT tell the difference between my RH ring which is a diamond F/VS2 and the diamond fusion stone. Except it was about 80% cheaper than my RH ring. The jeweller said he would make whatever I wanted. He even let me take a ring outside in the natural light to compare it to my diamond ring, and I still couldn’t pick the difference. But also, I have worn CZ rings in the past and had many compliments on my amazing “diamond” ring which I didn’t bother to correct – I think you’ll find that no-one ever bothers to ask what sort of stone it is unless it’s something coloured!
Post # 9
Hi congratulations on your impending engagement. I have both diamond and moissy, being married many years. My original RB 1.3 ct I colored diamond and an unenhanced 2.25ct OEC moissy. In all honesty, I like the sparkle i get from my moissy better. It sparkles like no ones business and no one has ever asked or assumed it wasn’t a diamond. After wearing this moissy, I can honestly say that all future diamond-like jewelry pieces will be moissy. I don’t have to worry too much about losing it and it’s gorgeous. See avatar. Hope that helps. Good luck!!
ETA grammar and below picture of my moissy with diamond side stones. Perhaps you could compromise and do both 😉
Post # 10
It has fooled me before and id consider myself very educated about diamonds and moissanite. The average person will assume its a diamond!
Post # 11
Ugh! I know that long distance feeling all too well but I’m glad you and your boyfriend are on the same page as far as marriage and your relationship goes. So firstly, I want to offer my congratulations to the both of you for your uncoming engagement.
Secondly, my family is old school (especially my mom) and they think diamond is THE engagement stone. Sapphires don’t even sway my mom unless they’re heirloom. But I have a 1ct unenhanced moissanite and she cannot tell the difference. She knows it’s moissanite now but initially thought it was diamond until I told her otherwise. No one else has ever questioned whether or not it’s “real” or a diamond and I get compliments all the time.
[side note: seriously, what’s up with the lack of uploaded gallery and crop/rotate options on the New Bee?]
Post # 12
No one has ever guessed that my stone is a moissanite. I was in the same boat as you, I couldn’t justify asking my FI to spend that much money, I would rather put that money into our house or wedding! The people I did choose to tell it was moissy didn’t have anything negative to say about it, just commented on how gorgeous it is.
I have a 2ct RB FB enhanced moissy and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. The glitter it throws off is remarkable. The side stones are diamonds too so I feel like I have the best of both worlds. 🙂 First picture is from in my car on an overcast day and the second is indoors (sorry its blurry but that’s the best way to show the sparkles!) Hope this helps! I know when I was trying to decide WB was awesome.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
I feel like if you don’t have anything “for” diamond, as you said, then you might as well save the money and get a moissanite. When I first told my mom I was thinking about moissy, she turned her nose up at the idea and didn’t like it… at all. So I dropped it and never brought it up around her again.
Well we got engaged, I got a moissy, she assumed it as a diamond, and I didn’t say anything for like.. a month or two. After she made a comment about how much she loved my ring and had asked me for the 3rd or 4th time to try it on for fun, I finally told her.. guess what? It’s a moissanite! Her jaw dropped! She then told me that we did a great job getting something so affordable that was “so damn pretty!” She swears that she would have never known if I never told her, and said she felt bad for putting down my choices in the past. She trusts me now, lol.
Post # 14
Sandeek: I don’t know if you sprinkled magic beauty dust on that thing or what, but every time I see it my knees turn to jello! Lol! It’s soooo pretty! I’m (im)patiently waiting for my OEC moissy. CAN’TWAITCAN’TWAITCAN’TWAITCAN’TWAITCAN’TWAITCAN’TWAITCAN’TWAITCAN’TWAIT!
Post # 15
FutureDrAtkins: Great story! I definitely think most people must think “it has to be a diamond or it’s not good enough” or whatever. I don’t really know what I’ll say if people (my mom) have a negative opinion, but I’ll be happy with mine no matter what.