Moissanite- to tell or not to tell

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee

When my FI got me some white sapphire earrings for my birthday, and I constantly got people asking me “Are those real?” I would always say “They’re real sapphires and real gold so yeah” because I hate that idea that something that isnt a diamond somehow isnt “real”

My e-ring is a diamond though, and no one so far has commented on it being “real” or not, so I would say unless someone specifically asks what your stone is, theres no reason to tell them anything unless you want to.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

futuremrsrossol:  I’ve always wondered that too! I feel like when I eventually get engaged, if it is not a diamond, I would feel compelled to lie. In the same way that when a police officer is driving behind you, even if you’re not doing anything wrong, you feel guilty (is that just me?).

I wish I was one of those girls who could hold their head high and say “no, I didn’t want him to waste his money on a diamond” or tell them it’s none of their business etc. But I’d probably just chicken out and fib, or say “no, it’s not” and then hear about it through the loop that x told y who told z, and everyone is talking about it in a not good way… I have a lot of catty acquaintences 😛

If you feel comfortable telling them it’s not their business, or saying “What does it have to do with anything?” I’d say go for it!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Gorgeous ring!

FTR I have a diamond not a moissanite. You are likely going to have a lot of people tell you to never fake it, that lying is dishonest, you should be proud blah blah blah.

I say do whatever makes you comfortable. Youre not hurting anyone by telling a little white lie; if it helps avoid an awkard or unwanted situation, go for it. But if you want to enlighten people on your awesome stone, even better.

In real life, nobody really knows what moissanite is, and trust me, no one will be able to tell it aprt. Shame on whoever is classless enough to still ask that; no one should make you feel less than elated about your engagement because of what your center stone is. 

 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

futuremrsrossol:  I just ordered my moissy (woot!) and have been wondering the same thing. On the one hand I could care less what people think. On the other hand I don’t want to hear any negativity about my beautiful ring. I saw another thread that had a couple good answers.

Dumba$$: Is that real?

You: No, it’s photoshopped.

Or

You: No, it’s a figment of your imagination.

Love ’em both! I’m hoping no one will ever be crass enough to ask.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

futuremrsrossol:  my “real” e-ring is CZ. I am confortable with it and telling people about it. Even so I, obviously, don’t go walking around for life with a sign pasted on my forhead that says “chill down, it is just a CZ, don’t even bother to steal” or something like that. If they ask, I am happy to answer.

If I was in your shoes I would only say: “Yes!!! It is real moissanite, isn’t it beautiful?!”

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have ever gotten asked this and I can’t believe people do ask! I would say “well you can see it so it’s obviously real, right?” 

Post # 8
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692 posts
Busy bee

futuremrsrossol:  If people are rude/nosy enough to ask, then you should lie to them. It’s really none of their business. By asking that question, they’re pretty much just trying to figure out what was spent on the ring or what it’s worth. 

 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

futuremrsrossol:  Congratulations on your engagement! Do what ever you feel comfortable doing. I would ask yourself this though: Is it better to tell people its moissanite now and have the attitude of “I love what I got, diamond or not”, and not have to worry about it coming out later? If it does come out later on that you got a simulant, what will the fall out be like? I always feel that honesty is better for your inner circles for that reason. 

I don’t have a moissanite myself, but my diamond is small, and there are opinions about that as well. You know what? Opinions are like belly buttons, everyone has one! Be choosy about which ones you care about.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

futuremrsrossol:  Congratulations on your engagement! Do what ever you feel comfortable doing. I would ask yourself this though: Is it better to tell people its moissanite now and have the attitude of “I love what I got, diamond or not”, and not have to worry about it coming out later? If it does come out later on that you got a simulant, what will the fall out be like? I always feel that honesty is better for your inner circles for that reason. 

I don’t have a moissanite myself, but my diamond is small, and there are opinions about that as well. You know what? Opinions are like belly buttons, everyone has one! Be choosy about which ones you care about.

Post # 11
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5228 posts
Bee Keeper

futuremrsrossol:  

 Congratulations on your engagement! Do what ever you feel comfortable doing. I would ask yourself this though: Is it better to tell people its moissanite now and have the attitude of “I love what I got, diamond or not”, and not have to worry about it coming out later? If it does come out later on that you got a simulant, what will the fall out be like? I always feel that honesty is better for your inner circles for that reason. 

I don’t have a moissanite myself, but my diamond is small, and there are opinions about that as well. You know what? Opinions are like belly buttons, everyone has one! Be choosy about which ones you care about.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I just tell people what it is, but I have not been asked that before.  Whatever someting thinks of you, because of a ring though, is really nothing to concern yourself with.  I personally, am not comfortable lying to people.  But you should do whatevermakes you happy.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

I have no idea why my last post is there three times, and it won’t let me edit! Sorry 

I am so NOT loving the so called upgrades to the site 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I have a diamond, but no one has ever asked me if it’s real or not. I think most people ask if it is really large, maybe? Id say to just tell them whatever you feel like.

I don’t jump to the conclusion that it’s rude to ask about people’s jewlery- it’s more the intention behind it.

I once asked a friend about her CZ earings. I just asked what kind of stone it was, but because I thought it was pretty, not because I was judging her. So, I would assess the intention behind the question. the “is it real?” question is more rude than “what kind of stone is that?”- maybe the latter could be someone potentially looking into buying a moissy.

Post # 15
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Newbee

I dont like when people start bashing bees decisions about their rings. 

If you have a moissanite and you dont want people to know it’s not a diamond- don’t tell them.

it’s none of their business, and just because you own a moissanite and don’t run people down to tell them that’s what it is, doesn’t mean you’re not proud of it. 

Congrats on the engagement:)

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