Post # 1
My boyfriend and I have decided to save some money and get a moissanite for my engagement ring. I like sparkle, and maybe I’ll upgrade later, unless I stay completely in love with my moissy… who knows?
While I am perfectly happy with the decision, I do anticipate some weird questions from my mom/family, my advisor, etc. Help me, what reasons can I find to justify our decision to buy moissanite? I don’t want to bring money issues or sparkle up as reasons because my family is very likely to tell me that I’m superficial if I say that. They’re a very old fashioned family of doctors and intellectuals… you know how that goes.
I also want to make sure that I don’t just pass it off as a “fake diamond” since it is a stone in its own right. Too bad they can’t actually give you the genuine moissanite, all of them are created. I’m trying to think of how to explain how it’s different from CZ in terms of simulating a clear stone like diamond…
And just to make it clear: I LOVE our decision to go with moissanite. I’m the one who suggested it. I love everything sparkly and unique, and this one’s both! This is more about making sure this doesn’t affect my image in my family’s eyes.
Post # 3
OMG I’m so sorry I just realized I accidentally posted it like 5 times! Can an OP please keep only one thread of these? I’m so embarrassed…
Post # 4
Tell them you watched blood diamond and you just don’t feel good about diamonds anymore. If you haven’t watched it you should, you will feel really good about your moissy choice 🙂
Post # 5
I just simply don’t mention that my stone is a moissanite to most people. People just assume it is a diamond, and wouldn’t be so rude as to ask about it if they did doubt it was “Real”. However I do tell certain people about the stone (“its called moissanite, it is man made based on the chemical formula of a deposite left by a meteor but almost as hard as a diamond, and it actually sparkles MORE”), and the way i explain it is a) we didn’t think it was fair for him to spend so much on something that we both wouldn’t get to enjoy when this is even more beautiful and b) i would feel SCARED to have a $5000 ring on my hand! I would lose it or break it! My 1ct moissanite solitaire is perfect because it was affordable, durable, beautiful, and classic
Post # 6
Sometimes the best way to avoid anticipated weirdness is to just jump right in and own your decision. Say it loud, say it proud; I got a moissy engagement ring and I love it! As far as justifying your decision, while I personally don’t think you owe anyone any explanation, you can simply say that YOU picked it and its exactly what YOU wanted. I’ve seen some beautiful moissy rings on WB and I would never ever look down on someone or make someone feel bad for having a non-diamond ring. Please post your ring when you get it!
Post # 7
Just say it’s exactly what you wanted. It is, and you don’t need to further justify your choice. No need to bring up blood diamonds and rub people in your family with diamonds up the wrong way. If people ask, just say “I just prefer moissanite, and it’s what I wanted.” End of discussion.
Post # 8
Just say “yes it is a pretty diamond isnt it!”
Problem sorted 🙂
Post # 9
I’m thinking about that conversation because I chose an Asha (cz). I think what I’m going to do is not say anything in conversation, and if anyone asks point blank if it’s a diamond, I’m going to say “No, I don’t support the diamond trade, and I love that I can get the look of a beautiful, clear, firey stone without having to pay for a dimaond.”
Post # 10
I chose a moissanite too and kind of for the same reasons–I prefer a larger stone but the price was daunting. I definitely am not going to lie about it but I am also not going to run around yelling HEY I GOT A MOISSANITE DIAMONDS SUCK! Partially because I would look more than a little crazy (also diamonds don’t suck) and partially because I would spend more time explaining than I would spend basking in a new engagement.
Tell close friends and other appropriate people. Don’t lie to family and others. Get a script ready for rude questions.
“Is it real?”
“Nope, it’s a figment of your imagination. <pause and pointed look> If you’re inquiring as to whether or not this stone is a diamond, then the answer is no. It’s a moissanite.”
Don’t be ashamed or defensive. Rock your eco friendly and ethically procured rock from space!
Post # 11
Just got my three stone trellis moissanite anniversary ring in palladium from moissaniteco. All stones are unenhanced, the middle stone is 6mm (0.75 carats) and side stones are 3.5 mm (0.15 carats each). My ring size is 6. Moissanites does show a hint of color indoors, but under the sun it looks amazing. I shot a couple of videos comparing my new moissy ring and my solitaire (0.16 carats) diamond and mini chip (0.005??) wedding band. Moissy ring is my present for our 2nd year wedding and 7th year dating anniversary. It costs about 1/8th the price compared to real diamond ring of the same specs. Made a couple of videos comparing moissy and diamond. Hope it helps. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dvz3VzErvZw http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EQ8C07WtVCU