Post # 1
Girls, I need some help convincing my boyfriend NOT to get me a diamond!
I want either an amora gem or an amora enhanced moissanite. I currently have a ring with an Asha in it and nobody knows the difference!
He’s worried that:
People will know instantly that it is not a diamond.
Since they will know instantly, they will think he is cheap
That I’m “just saying” I don’t want a diamond, but deep down, I do.
So girls, help a sister out!
Show me your moissy pics and tell me your experience! Am I right when I say that only YOU will know the difference?
If anyone has any good diamond vs moissy pics, I’d love to show him those too!
Post # 3
I don’t have a moissy but my bestfriend does, and it definitely looks different than a diamond. It’s waaaay more sparkly and the tint is sort of gray in some lights. Really pretty though!
Post # 4
Amora Enhanced will not look grey in any lighting, so that is a benefit to it. The Amora Gem will be even better though, so I would wait for that. As for convincing him, I would just order a loose stone and let him see for himself, with no pressure. Or order yourself some moissy/Amora earrings, and see what he thinks. If you don’t tell him what you are doing you will probably fool him…and then you proved your own point. 😉
Post # 5
Nobody has ever realized that my ring is a moissy, with the exception of the guy at the jewelry repair shop I took it to get it soldered to my wedding ring. Unless you have friends that really really know diamonds, thats not an immediate risk. Also feel free to explain to people what it really is, from my experience they find it really interesting if nothing else.
Post # 6
@Helloemi: I can definitely tell the difference in person and in pictures… It stands on it’s own as a unique gem. It is very pretty.
Post # 7
I have an unenhanced moissy, but it’s super white. EVERYONE thinks it’s a diamond when they look at it, but I am quick to say it’s moissy because I love moissanite itself. Generally they are shocked and want to know more about it. I think my aunt even tagged a picture of my proposal on FB and said something like “look at that diamond”
I’d post a pic, but my uploader isn’t working 🙁
Post # 8
Everyone’s always assumed my 1 carat unenhanced moissy is a diamond as well. (But I usually tell them otherwise.) We saved a ton of money. It’ll last a lifetime. It’s gorgeous in its own right. You really can’t go wrong with it *except* if deep down you really do want a diamond but feel like you’re settling somehow. There are people who just have to have a diamond period. Other than that, send your SO here to read more about it. Also Better Than Diamond forums is another really helpful resource to educate you on moissy. And now, here’s some gratuitous moissy porn:
Post # 10
Most people do not spend the same amount of time looking at rings as we do, so 99% of people will hinestly not be able to tell. They see a white stone and assume diamond. You can thank DeBeers, as their intense marketing has pretty much made everyone in North America assume all white stones are diamonds. 🙂 I agree moissy looks different, but I spend hours upon hours looking at rings and jewelry…that is not really normal, lol.
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@Helloemi: Like some others who have commented, I have a 1 ct equivalent in enhanced moissy. No one has ever gone “oh, that’s not a diamond, is it?”, even some women I know who give the impression of being pretty into diamonds. (I’m open about it being moissanite when that discussion is appropriate.) As for what he thinks you want…all I can say to that is, have an honest conversation about it, ask him why he thinks that, tell him why you want moissanite and not diamond if that’s what you want.
Post # 13
I’m actually on BTD but I’ve never seen a couple of those threads! Thank you!
Also, is that a heart and arrow pattern I see?
That’s the main reason why I want an amora gem. I hope BTD considers making them in color H… My asha is f/g and I feel like it is icy.
Post # 14
@MrsBlueSeptember: Thanks for the post! That was interesting!
Current moissanite can’t be truly cut in hearts and arrows because of the double refraction (how it reflects light). My ring can sometimes look similar to an H&A cut when viewed directly from above. But if you compare it with a true H&A stone, it doesn’t ever quite get there. But I didn’t even know about the whole H&A thing when I first got engaged. Heck, they weren’t even selling Amora when I first got engaged. Just know that Amora Gem won’t be available in the US until 2015 I think. So if you’re planning on marriage before then, you will either have to upgrade in the future, or “settle” for regular Amora. I think the reason why Amora Gem can be cut in H&A is because it has a slightly different crystal structure from the moissanite out there today so it doesn’t have double refraction. I think my stone was handpicked by our jeweler to be cut well since the ring was custom designed by my husband. I’m not sure any other ladies here notice an H&A-like pattern in their moissy. Any others?
Post # 15
I have a 1ct equivalent unenhanced OEC and I love it. It shows warmth in overcast conditions, but I would expect any L-M coloured stone to do that. It DID take some convincing as far as the whole Diamond VS Moissy debate is concerned. When I brought it up my Fiance felt weird and like it wasn’t going ot be a true ‘engagement ring’. I then told him about how the diamond industry was influenced by adds in the 50’s and 60’s, how silly it is that diamonds are as expensive as they are, etc. Eventually he came around and he is very happy with his purchase. People assume it’s a diamond because that’s what we as consumers have some to understand-engagement rings=diamonds. I don’t HATE diamonds, but they are expensive for something so little. The idea that people die for no reason in the diamond industry also swayed my decision of wanting moissy. I love sparkle and white stones, and since moissy has more sparkle it was a win win!
Keep us updated!
Post # 16
@Helloemi: Your fiance sounds exactly like my husband. It took like 2 months to convince him that YES I really wanted a moissanite, and NO I wasn’t going to accuse him of cheaping out because he didn’t buy me a diamond.
Not a single soul has ever asked if it wasn’t a diamond. I’ve told the people in my daily life that it’s a moissanite because I think the story behind it is cool, but yeah if a total stranger says “What a pretty diamond”, I just say thanks. As for people thinking he’s cheap, hell most people slapped my husband on the back and complimented him on finding a woman that didn’t want him to spend money on a diamond. Two of my guy friends have now proposed with moissanites in the last year and their girls love them. I have an enhanced 1ct equivalent (amora wasn’t around when we were ring shopping) and it’s just beautiful, a little warm in certain lightings, but I think it gives it some character!